single mum..work!?!.how is it possible??

dmg24

UnderPressure wrote: »

Hello, firstly welcome to the forums

Secondly ignore snooty people on here there are a lot of judgmental idiots on here that have a perfect life and look down their noses on anyone who claims any sort of benefits, the laughable part about it is most of these types sit at home all day on their !!!!!! whilst their husbands go to work, just ignore them there is plenty here so when you read a post like "ooooohhhhhhh make you children proud and contribute" just move on.......................

For every 1 ridiculous comment you will generally get 2 people manners that are genuine and want to help

OK I completely understand where you are coming from, it can be a nightmare as has been said if you work 16 hours or over you can get working and child tax credit and help of about 80% towards the cost of childcare, so far as hoidays some nurseries for some ridiculous reason I have never understoond why shut in school holidays so as others have said you need to look into clubs and childminders for this. Where is the childrens dad? Can he not help out in the school holidays??

Also you will probably be better of starting part timr 20 hoursish a week will get you your working tax credit which will top your money up to a full time wage, dependant on your circumstances you should also be eligable for some council tax and housing benefit, moving back into work will be a great positive thing for you to do, if you can find a job you like and balance the child care then Im sure you will be a lot happier, as has been suggested try the local supermarkets etc they are used to catering for school hours workers, are you near a town centre?? Try shops and stores there, you could do a lot worst than actually go to the job centre and tell them the issues I am sure they will have heard the same things before so will have the relevant information there to help you sort things out.

If all else fails the Citizens Advice Bureau are fantastic and again will be able to point you in the right direction of child care providers and also help you sort out eberything that you are entitled to.

Chin up dont worry, there are hundreds of people in your place that have all asked the same questions, there is a job somehwere for you and I am sure with a bit of help from the relevant people the child care should be a doddle

As said ignore the snotties on here there seems to be more and more self opinionated people full of complete sh*t joining every week, and as said there are also loads of genuine people that will be more than happy to try and help in any way they can.

Good on you for asking the questions

Best of luck..........................

The word hypocrite springs to mind, you are the only person in this thread who has resort to namecalling and bad language. Perhaps you should look at your own posting style before criticising others?

You may also wish to read the posts before trying to help. The OP has a mortgage, and therefore will never be entitled to housing benefit.

UnderPressure

dmg24 wrote: »

The word hypocrite springs to mind, you are the only person in this thread who has resort to namecalling and bad language. Perhaps you should look at your own posting style before criticising others?

You may also wish to read the posts before trying to help. The OP has a mortgage, and therefore will never be entitled to housing benefit.

I have to admit I missed the mortgage bit, mmmmmmm tricky I suppose especially if it is a big mortgae, so what would the OP do then say if she had a 6-700 pound a month mortgage would it even be possible to work and claim enough to pay this and have any quality of life?

Would she be expected to sell the home and rent somewhere? I suppose so kind of makes sense, I have read some of you posts in other threads DMG and you seem to know what you are tlaking about when it comes to things like this so maybe you could offer some advice re mortgage?

So far as being a hypocrite I dont think so, yes I may have used to odd nayghty word if that offended the OP then please accept my appology, it was meant to come across as down to earth and friendly (towards the OP anyhow) but I still stand by what I said so far as the judgemental snooty crew, I wont go over it again it is said many times on these forums by many people.......................

Oldernotwiser

UnderPressure wrote: »

Hello, firstly welcome to the forums

Secondly ignore snooty people on here there are a lot of judgmental idiots on here that have a perfect life and look down their noses on anyone who claims any sort of benefits, the laughable part about it is most of these types sit at home all day on their !!!!!! whilst their husbands go to work, just ignore them there is plenty here so when you read a post like "ooooohhhhhhh make you children proud and contribute" just move on.......................

For every 1 ridiculous comment you will generally get 2 people manners that are genuine and want to help

OK I completely understand where you are coming from, it can be a nightmare as has been said if you work 16 hours or over you can get working and child tax credit and help of about 80% towards the cost of childcare, so far as hoidays some nurseries for some ridiculous reason I have never understoond why shut in school holidays so as others have said you need to look into clubs and childminders for this. Where is the childrens dad? Can he not help out in the school holidays??

Also you will probably be better of starting part timr 20 hoursish a week will get you your working tax credit which will top your money up to a full time wage, dependant on your circumstances you should also be eligable for some council tax and housing benefit, moving back into work will be a great positive thing for you to do, if you can find a job you like and balance the child care then Im sure you will be a lot happier, as has been suggested try the local supermarkets etc they are used to catering for school hours workers, are you near a town centre?? Try shops and stores there, you could do a lot worst than actually go to the job centre and tell them the issues I am sure they will have heard the same things before so will have the relevant information there to help you sort things out.

If all else fails the Citizens Advice Bureau are fantastic and again will be able to point you in the right direction of child care providers and also help you sort out eberything that you are entitled to.

Chin up dont worry, there are hundreds of people in your place that have all asked the same questions, there is a job somehwere for you and I am sure with a bit of help from the relevant people the child care should be a doddle

As said ignore the snotties on here there seems to be more and more self opinionated people full of complete sh*t joining every week, and as said there are also loads of genuine people that will be more than happy to try and help in any way they can.

Good on you for asking the questions

Best of luck..........................

I don't know why you're having a rant - everybody so far has been helpful and constructive and has already covered the options such as part time work and tax credits that you have mentioned.

hermum

As said ignore the snotties on here there seems to be more and more self opinionated people full of complete sh*t joining every week, and as said there are also loads of genuine people that will be more than happy to try and help in any way they can.
Says the person, who only joined a few weeks ago. While referring to forum members who have been on here for years in most cases.

OP, have you tried the Up Your Income board, lots of ideas on there. They won't make you rich but can help a little, there are several threads within it about the different companies who take on homeworkers.
Do you ebay at all? If so & it's something you enjoy, depending on where you live there's still money to be made picking up bits & pieces from charity shops, car boots etc & selling them on ebay.
Child minding? If that appeals your local council would tell you what you need to do & have in place to become registered.
Have you had an appointment with Lone parent adviser at JC yet, if not request one, they should be able to answer a lot of your queries.
Good luck

ChristinaWilson

I can sympathize with you. I am also a mother to 2 little ones, and it is very hard to work. But totally possible. Ask off for the days that your children will be home for the holidays. If you have any neighbors that you can trust, they may be willing to help you out as well. There are probably alot of people who would be more than willing to babysit your kids. Or maybe even look into daycare.

Another suggestion would be to work from home. Then, you don't have to worry about having someone to get your kids from school or being home with them during holidays. You can be with them! You can choose the hours when YOU want to work!

Best of luck with whatever ends up happening.

MzJones

Thanks for your input UP, I was worried that I was being hyper sensitive, but I appricate you see my piont

I have to admit I missed the mortgage bit, mmmmmmm tricky I suppose especially if it is a big mortgae, so what would the OP do then say if she had a 6-700 pound a month mortgage

My mortgage isn't huge and I do get help, not housing benifit but the same department, they'll only pay half which means I have to pay the extra £200, but thats not my issue really...my issue is...I chose to be a mum...under no choice of my own I'm now a single mum...no dad in sight....(he's living the single life, no maintance either)....I want to bring up my kids, be here for them, not pay someone else to whilst I'm working...for, lets face it...I've been searching the JCP site for months and the wage per hour that companies offer these days is rot

looby75

MzJones wrote: »

(he's living the single life, no maintance either)....I want to bring up my kids, be here for them, not pay someone else to whilst I'm working...for, lets face it...I've been searching the JCP site for months and the wage per hour that companies offer these days is rot

He should be paying for his kids, have you considered contacting the CSA (or what ever it's called now, I have a private arrangement with ex so don't use it)

If you are having to pay mortgage payments then any maintenance from your ex would be a big help as child maintenance payments are no longer taken into consideration for benefits.

chocdonuty

I have to say that I'm in the same boat as the op,.
I've been applying for jobs, the few that don't require me to be flexible and work evenings/weekends left right and centre, do I even get a reply?!!
It's hard trying to find a job that's suitable and childcare that is both suitable and I can trust. dd's dad lives many miles away, my parents are busy with their own business so it's me or unknown childcare.
Another thing to consider is how to actually get my child to the childcare and myself to a job. I don't have a car so to travel to these places costs time and money, the further away, the less hours I am available to work. It's a flipping nightmare and not so easy as people think!

UnderPressure

MzJones wrote: »

Thanks for your input UP, I was worried that I was being hyper sensitive, but I appricate you see my piont



My mortgage isn't huge and I do get help, not housing benifit but the same department, they'll only pay half which means I have to pay the extra £200, but thats not my issue really...my issue is...I chose to be a mum...under no choice of my own I'm now a single mum...no dad in sight....(he's living the single life, no maintance either)....I want to bring up my kids, be here for them, not pay someone else to whilst I'm working...for, lets face it...I've been searching the JCP site for months and the wage per hour that companies offer these days is rot

No worries They will all pick on me now seen as I have only been here a few weeks lmao

I know what you mean though so far as wanting to be a parent, you mentioned you used to work in finance I think it was, is there any way you could do something being self employed working from home? The Ebay suggestion is a good one the problem tends to be longevity so far as finding more things to sell but it is not impossible there are people making a good living on EBay etc................

Maybe would be best for you to rack your brains as to something you could do self employed wise?

Either way I wish you the best of luck and like I said before you could do worst than approaching the Job Centre and also Citizens Advice, I have read a few threads on here about the Job Centre trying to puch people into jobs that they really dont want so tread carefully.

My mum was in a similar situation when I was a child, there wasnt all the working and child tax credits then, she returned to full time work when I was just 12, I was quite a sensible child I would get home from school around 4ish then she would be in for 5:30 so wasn't to bad I never burnt the house down or anything anyhow

School holidays were boring as hell for me but there is loads now to keep shildren busy, have a look at your local leisure centre they generally have a decent school holiday programme as well.

Hope it all works, Im sure it will

paulwf

OP you ask about the 12 year old being left alone after school...the comments at the end of a recent BBC News Magazine article are worth a read:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/8704827.stm