Coming back as a groom!

mellymeep

I'm with you Lexxi, I'm worried I'm nagging too much sometimes and have to stand back and remember he's a man and I'm a woman. I know he's just happy to let me do everything because he knows that I'll pick everything we like as a couple... but it's so stressful and a bit upsetting when it seems like he's not bothered, I'm even organising his stag night!!! (well we're having a 'hag' do because we have the same friends)

mrdunkleysexy

Hi all

Just been reading all the posts and feel sorry for the ladies whose other half aren’t pulling their weight, when they want them more involved

Myself and my B2B are sharing the load, both responsible for certain tasks i.e. me sorting DJ and entertainment , hire of suits and my B2B sorting out the bridesmaids dresses and church etc

As stressful as it is were both enjoying working together, sorting out invite designs, guest lists and the budget and all the other stuff that’s entailed

Just printing off a wedding checklist spreadsheet and shoving it under their nose’s (hopefully) should be some encouragement to some of the partners into what planning is needed and I’m proud I’m getting involved on this wedding journey and not just a passenger on the ride

Good luck

fly_dragon_fly

mrdunkleysexy i want to hit you :P joking!

i would love that but mine stresses over the fact that he doesn't think we can afford it while i know as long as i keep putting away all my wages we are fine we have 7 months to save £2,500 grand easy! this weekend i get paid and shall be putting it all away so that will make it £2,000 to save for by December.

a lot of things i have paid deposits for and he doesn't even know and everytime i go to spend extra i pull up the wedding budget and stop myself.

sold 7 dresses this week on ebay and make just over £70 for them so that went straight into the wedding account.

mellymeep

I think its the fact its such a big life decision for my OH, he's still a kid at heart! I know he's totally happy with the decision he just can't get his head round it at the minute.

Horace

Lexxi - you will have to give him some jobs to do..eg. sort out the menswear and the transport (most men love cars so any opportunity to find something and ride in it or tinker with it then they are in heaven).

Lexxi

He pointed out he was listening before lol

Evansangel

Mine is exactly the same. I've just taken over the wedding planning and ask him here and there what he thinks.

I forced him to help with the ceremony music as i sorted it all out and he suddenly realised i done it without him and he didn't like 2 of my choice of songs.
So i made him pick two songs

Its only next week and he's putting ideas out there for me

So maybe as it gets nearer you might find your OH paying more attention lol.

Trying_really_hard

mellymeep wrote: »

I'm even organising his stag night!!! (well we're having a 'hag' do because we have the same friends)

Me too! Trying to organise a Hag do but he won't give me a firm date, place, budget etc. If I don't bother and we don't do one, he'll be the one having a paddy as I'm not that fussed.

Men - you gotta love them xx

mellymeep

Trying_really_hard wrote: »

Me too! Trying to organise a Hag do but he won't give me a firm date, place, budget etc. If I don't bother and we don't do one, he'll be the one having a paddy as I'm not that fussed.

Men - you gotta love them xx

I got it in the ear a few days ago for not giving him enough details about our hag do!!! I kindly informed him that because he's not worried about the fine details of our wedding then I took it that he wasn't going to be bothered about the do beyond what day he needs to book off work, bloody men!! :rotfl:

Lexxi

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I know men aren't interested in the details of things but with this being one of the biggest days of his life I keep expecting him to get stupidly excited too. Instead he is now pointing out when he is listening and when he is about to tune out totally