Coming back as a groom!

Lexxi

I'm going to come back as a groom! It's so easy for them, all they have to do is turn up! That's it, not much else to do, they don't even need to get involved in any plans, don't need to pick their outfit. All they have to do is pick a best man or three and plan the stag month, easy bloody peasy :mad:

I told him I had cut the guest list in half, we had 4 conversations about it and he agreed on the 5th conversation he finally tuned in and didn't like the idea!
If he wants me to plan it and just turn up then I wish he'd tell me he's going to faze out every time the W word comes up, except he won't be happy with the plans but it will be my fault he's not listened!

I resorted to drawing pictures as I went through the guest list and what I was thinking of doing through the day/night :rotfl:

Please tell me I'm not the only one

Dawalka

Hi Lexxi,

I think its down to the Groom, I am a Groom and have been quite involved in the planning (and stresses!!) and have taken an active interest in all parts, its my money too so I want it to be a day for both of us!! I guess some guys just are not that bothered about the minor (well some major too by your thread!!) details and are happy to just turn up, personally I think all Grooms should be as involved as possible, it sets the marriage on the right path of sharing and discussing!!

Good luck, I am sure on the day none of it will matter as you marry the man you love!!

anderson8

my groom wasnt too involved until i blew my top one day and had a right old go at him, since then hes been magic, sorted out the cake, kilt hire etc.

Lexxi

As I was getting more and more irate at him the other day he burst out laughing and was so impressed we were having our first argument about the wedding!!

laura2481

Sounds like you need to give him a job ie: sort out x by x date. and let him know it is his responsibility to sort this and if he doesn't do it... you're not going to so there will be no cake or whatever

I keep giving my OH little things like.. find a taylor (he wants a bespoke suit making, he can bl**dy well sort it himself) and find out timescales for suit making by end of July.

Seems to be working

Lexxi

That's good thinking Laura, thanks.
Right now I'm just getting all the lists together and working out what needs doing and by when and cost.
It'll probably get to the wedding and have a great day as there willl be all sorts of things there he didn't realise he'd agreed too!
*nakedbutlers.com* :rotfl:

fly_dragon_fly

mine acts like he's happy to do nothing but then i'll talk about the evening list and he turns into a 4 year old having paddys because he cant invite so and so.

tbh i wish he would take over it and not me.

i'm bored of it. ( him moaning i mean)

simple

Lexxi

I can just imagine the speaches now 'I'd like to thank ____ for their help and ____ and OH, except he hasn't done anything apart from moan when he suddenly tuned in and realised he didn't like what he'd agreed to :rotfl:
He's away today so I'm cracking on with everything and will just update him later

gemma_8_1

I have the same problem! Ive given mine specific jobs to do but no deadline dates yet i just keep asking if hes done it yet which im sure will drive him mad eventually!

xtinkersx

mines the same! i have big folder full of lists etc and the other day i asked hinm to look at the menu and see which meat option he woud choose and he blew up shouting its 2 yrs away and threw the book! it hen had a go bk saying was only asking i know its 2 yrs yet but i wanted to know (im veg option so left that to him) so he came in and looked for me.

but when i ask him things he just ascts like ehs listening but he isnt and now hes said hell plan the honeymoon hell be happy!

Lexxi

xtinkersx wrote: »

but when i ask him things he just ascts like ehs listening but he isnt and now hes said hell plan the honeymoon hell be happy!

That's what mine does, I wish he'd tell me he isn't listening so I could save my energy!
Then I could just give him a run down of what's happening a few days before :rotfl: