Student Finance for Married Abandoned Student

Dollypetals

I have been married for 2 years and went to France to study for a few months from my University in England, and my husband kept on our rented flat in England with a view to joining me in France when he could sublet it. He never came, but disappeared instead.

My Local Education Authority now say I must "prove" I have been abandoned or else my student finances must be assessed on my parents again, not on my husband as they were last year.

I am not dependent on my parents and don't want them involved with financing my studies. How can I get over this problem? I am too young to be assessed as an "independent student".

Maiden Between a Rock and a Hard Place

ianian99

get a job?

cupid_s

Unfortunately most students are not dependent on their parents and don't actually want their finances to be assessed on the basis of their parents earnings. But that's how it is with our stupid government. Now with loans and all whatever your parents earn - they're not expected to actually give you anything.
I really don't see that it makes all that much difference really unless you're parents are very well off and you'd be entitled to less from the LEA as a result

Snow_Angel

Did they say how they expect you to "prove" that your husband has left you? Total madness - and btw I hope you realise good riddance to him. What a horrible thing to do to someone. :mad:

Savvy_Sue

Dollypetals wrote:

My Local Education Authority now say I must "prove" I have been abandoned or else my student finances must be assessed on my parents again, not on my husband as they were last year.

Have you asked them what would constitute 'proof'? Body in the back garden, unopened post addressed to him, missing person's report to the police? Do you know at all where he is, and would you be able to get a letter from him saying he's not coming back?

Your student's union might be able to help as well.

Good luck!

DrFluffy

Have you reported him missing? I mean, he might be dead somewhere in a ditch. It so, then the police statement etc will surfice.

Tiff_2

Hi. My 16 year old son has been accepted onto a BTEC National Diploma In Performing Arts course (pending next Thursday's results - cross everything :think: ) at a college.
I noticed on the site that great advice has been given to Uni students :grouphug: & I thought I would ask if anyone knows of any grants or bursaries my DS could apply for?
I've googled my brains out but mostly get student loans listed. I am divorced and I'm now severely disabled. He has been granted full EMA.
His college is an hour + bus ride away each way & because of the rehearsals, physical as well as mental demands made on this course the college advise against getting any job - or if no choice no more than 7 hours per week. Most employers will not take him on because he won't be able to commit due to his course activities.He looked for work during the summer but most places were only hiring Uni students.
He will be leaving the house at 6.30am & returning around 6pm. He is going to need dancewear and shoes- different ones for each discipline - and then also equipment for his acting and singing modules! He's had a really hard time and I don't want to let him down.:o
Does anyone have any ideas please? Thanks for your time.

Emmzi

tried here under 'funding'?

http://www.educationuk.org/pls/cgi-bin/hc_all_home.page_pls_homepage

Also asking college directly about bursaries etc... they may have some generous philanthropists lurking..

kittiwoz

Since he's U18 and in FE it is basically expected that you will provide his financial support. Obviously that's difficult if your disability prevents you from working. I think you should make sure you should visit the Benefits, Tax Credits and Job Seeking board to make sure you are in receipt of all the benefits to which you are entitled and also the Old Style board for some tips on how to save money by doing things like cooking from scratch. Btw, You should have started this as a new thread by clicking on the button at the top left in the main page of the students board where it lists all the different threads.

Dollypetals, it occurs that if your flat was jointly owned it is very odd for your husband to leave with no contact and just give up his equity. I agree with Dr Fluffy that you should report him missing. It doesn't seem to have occured to you that his "disappearance" could have been anything other that voluntary and since I know I'd be going mental with worry if one of my friends just disppeared I'm wondering if you have some reason to think that he has left you. I'm not trying to pry, it's just that if you do maybe it would help you to convince the SLC.

Bossyboots

kittiwoz wrote:

Dollypetals, it occurs that if your flat was jointly owned it is very odd for your husband to leave with no contact and just give up his equity. I agree with Dr Fluffy that you should report him missing. It doesn't seem to have occured to you that his "disappearance" could have been anything other that voluntary and since I know I'd be going mental with worry if one of my friends just disppeared I'm wondering if you have some reason to think that he has left you. I'm not trying to pry, it's just that if you do maybe it would help you to convince the SLC.

Dollypetals has said that the flat was rented, not owned.

hostie

Hi Dollypetals it sounds like you will need to file for a divorce on the grounds of desertion.