the nicest people are always dealt the harshest and cruellest of blows

cally6008

the nicest people are always dealt the harshest and cruellest of blows

Much needed positive thinking, prayers, reiki healing, healing thoughts and god knows whatever else (although surely a god would not deal such a cruel blow like this)

I work in a shop where there is 7 of us, all female and all pretty close. The supervisor is only 3 maybe 4 years older than me so we gel along totally fab style, she's one of my best mates and I dont have that many actual true friends so that's saying a lot.

Last year, her daughter came to work in the shop for 6 months or so. We got on fine with each other. Then she left to work somewhere else and a few weeks later, her mum (my supervisor) said she (meaning the daughter) was pregnant.

Fast forward 8 months on till this week.

The daughter went to local hospital for a scan and was told that the baby's kidneys were enlarged and that she would have to go to Newcastle for a more thorough scan.

That scan happened yesterday and has left the whole family and us work colleagues shocked beyond relief and praying that things work out ok.

The baby has a diaphram hernia (spelling?). Basically it's pushing his stomach upwards towards his chest and his heart and lungs over to one side. The local hospital never said a word about this so you can imagine the look of horror and disbelief when the doctor told them both.

The prognosis does not look good at all. He has a 2 in 3 chance of survival. 1 in 3 babies with this die.

She's getting started off in labour on monday and then it's finger crossed for the next week to 6 weeks if he lives that long. (not sure if it natural birth or caesarian).

If the little fella doesnt get enough oxygen then he could/will end up brain damaged. As soon as he's born, he's got to go straight to theatre (if he's strong enough) so they can operate and help sort his insides out.

(anyone got any tissues ?)

Me n the lass I was on with today .. we did wonder about doing a collection for them but what would you buy ? cant really buy baby things cos that would be insensitive if baby dies, cant really buy baby card either, we did think about a thinking of you card.

Much needed positive thinking, prayers, reiki healing, healing thoughts and god knows whatever else (although surely a god would not deal such a cruel blow like this)

I just don't know what to say

RAS

Hi love.

I know of a case where something similiar happened recently; although the major organs wer outside the body. They actually found out a lot earlier and were advised to terminate, but chose to go through with the pregnancy.

The first 24 hours were touch and go but the operation was successful and they have a lovely little toddler. Whacking great scar on his chest, but otherwise fine.

xxvickixx

I don't know what to say, apart from that it is very sad.
I think there was a baby with this condition on the TV programme "One born every minute" the documentary on the labour ward, the baby was fine in the end luckily. I hope your friend's grandson is too.

kate1976

Hope all goes well!

Apricot

Sending lots of positive vibes their way xx

BitterAndTwisted

One of the bad things and one of the completely great things about doctors is that they don't always know everything.

Someone very close to me was told before she gave birth that her son had no chance of survival after he was born and that they should prepare for the very worst to happen in about 48-72 hours. They took him home to be baptised and to face the inevitable together as a family.

Those doctors were wrong: he's just celebrated his second birthday

elfen

Think postively, the little one will get through this.

Thinking of them for Monday

clairec79

The odds are still in his favour

If the worse does happen and he dies PLEASE buy a baby card, that woman is still a mother her sons death doesn't change that - I know a few women who lost their babies at birth or within hours and they all say they treasure those cards which acknowledge their baby as a baby

briona

A friend of mine lost her baby to CDH earlier this year. Through her I've become aware of the CDH support charity "Cherubs UK". If your friend and her daughter are not already aware of it, it's well worth checking out. They also have a page on Facebook, through which you will get lots of support and advice.

I second what clairec79 said. No matter what the outcome, you should behave in the same manner as you would if any friend gave birth – buy a card, buy flowers, buy a gift. This baby is just as important as anyone else's and a life, whether for two hours, two days, two months or a lifetime is a life worth celebrating.

http://www.uk-cherubs.org.uk/
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Cherubs-uk-The-CDH-Support-Charity/115857561774643?ref=search&sid=580049988.2901368778..1

Briona

System

My thoughts are with them, i hope all goes ok and the little un pulls through

RLH33

My thoughts are with them, it must be a horrible, horrible time.

However to second what others have said it is also a time of celebration - the girl has become a mum for the first time and a new baby has been born and this needs to be acknowledged in the same way as you would any other baby.

A friend of mine had a little girl 10 weeks premature a few years ago and I sent a congratulations card but inside I also enclosed a letter explaining that I was thinking about them at this difficult time and that if there was anything I could do then to just call. I figured that if all went well, as it did, then the card could be kept as you would any other child's without mention of the fact that she was premature and that it was touch and go.

Buy a card and a gift, even if it is only a voucher - it will be appreciated whatever the circumstances.