should i have gone to work?

galvanizersbaby

no shouldn't have.

fly_dragon_fly wrote: »

that £10 is easily wasted so its not something i shall miss to much.

just need to be told i think that i am not wrong for stay at home to look after my sick child.

I don't think you are wrong to not feel comfortable with sending your child who has a possible tummy bug to another household (even if they are prepared to except the risk that it may be passed to them) - do you know why your partner does not seem to agree?

fly_dragon_fly

no shouldn't have.

i go to work for those 3 hours because its what they've gave me today.

i'm on minium wage for my age and have only 3 hours today because the company i work for are a no hours contract company so give me about 10/15 hours a week which is ok so i work 3/4 days a week.

its £15 if i work a 3 hour shift but once i've got the bus its £10 each £10 adds to a larger amount.

and i will take anything if its a job.

but we aren't meant to be focusing on my awful wage are we lol

thank you for the replies, i feel slightly better that i am not the bad person i feel.

smartpicture

yes you should have

Personally I think you should have gone. But that's your decision to make - not mine, and not your partners. If you think the made the right decision, then that's all that matters.

JodyBPM

yes you should have

It sounds from the original post as though your son was sick through coughing too much, rather than a sickness bug. On that basis, I would have sent him to your brother in laws.

If you had reason to suspect that he has a tummy bug etc, then I would be inclined to stay home and look after him, as these are very infectious.

I work part time and have young children, and it is tough balancing responsibility to the work place and needs of the children. I would expect to take annual leave or not to be paid for any days I took off to care for the children.

fly_dragon_fly

no shouldn't have.

he was sick on tuesday so i thought it was a tummy bug, but then he said his mouth and throat hurt so i sent him back today when he seemed to pick up then he got sent home again.

so i'm not sure.

do you mind me asking for anyone that thought i should have why? (i dont want a arguement lol just wondering thats all) x

BitterAndTwisted

no shouldn't have.

Eh, if your partner feels that strongly about it then he should be the contact-person the school calls. Then he can be the one to dash around making arrangements for his sick child at the drop of a hat.

What mother wouldn't want to clutch her poorly babe to her comforting bosom whatever the cost in lost wages?

claireac

no shouldn't have.

I don't think you should have gone to work - and in your situation, I certainly wouldn't have.

If it's a tummy bug then he needs to be at home (not with an 8mth old baby :eek:) with his mum. Equally if it's just an on-going virus type thing, I've always found a quiet day at home with mum can work wonders.

I don't ask my dh, I tell him I'm staying at home, and he wouldn't question this anyway.

(Mum of 3 - aged 20, 19 & 3)

Any

fly_dragon_fly wrote: »

do you mind me asking for anyone that thought i should have why? (i dont want a arguement lol just wondering thats all) x

I don't know your partner, obviously, but can't he be just worried about your future in a job?

You were supposed to work, then didn't turn up in the last minute, where is the guarantee they won't call someone more reliable next time?

donquine

If your BIL was happy to look after your child, I'd have let him, unless you genuinely thought at the time your son had something serious.

Children get poorly a lot - there will be days when your child is ill and no one can look after him and you will need to take the day off. On the odd occasion you can get help from your family instead - assuming nothing majorly wrong - I'd accept the offer. It'll minimise your absences from work, so when you really can't come in, colleagues will be more understanding.

mrcow

yes you should have

As you're not after an argument, I'll give you my opinion

Well I voted that you should have gone in.

You had alternative childcare in place and to avoid dropping your work colleagues in it at the last minute, you should have gone in.

It's what I would have done. If it's sorted at home (which is obviously your main priority) then you should fufill your obligations to your employer.

I personally wouldn't have let work down like that. And they know it. It's how give and take works. They know that I always do my best, and they reciprocate when it counts. If I hadn't gone in, they would have trusted me in that I had no alternative. To do what you've done today would be a betrayal of that trust.