Students parents - any tips

freebie_junkie

'hopless' 'lazy' 'messy' 'disrespectful of their surroundings' and apparently we spend all our money on beer so we will need our parents to bali us out before teh end of each term, how many stereotypes can people come out with in one thread?! im none of those horrid words, im teetotal and im very careful with my money, i never took any money off my parents even when i lived with them during the holidays in my first year if i needed more money i did more hours at work, my flat is kept lovely and my friends respect my flat when they come round, my care for my belongings doesnt annoy or alienate them, if it did i wouldnt really regard them as friends, my best frinds come over for dinner parties not mad pi$s-ups, my flat is a council flat in my name and so far ive manged the longest tenancy on my street apart from the fella who lives below me whose lived in his flat for longer than ive been alive.

Bossyboots

I am not sure the investment is protected simply by the signing of letter in the manner you describe. If the property is in his name he can simply sell it without recourse to you and if you do not have an interest registered at the Land Registry no-one need be any the wiser.

He might be breaking an agreement and you might be able to sue him through the County Court. Would you really want to do that? Assuming you can find him if he runs off with the money. Has your solicitor advised you to register a restriction against the property to prevent him selling it out from under you?

Snow_Angel

Freebie junkie - couldn't agree with you more. I actually struggle to live with other students because I'm too tidy (think Monica from friends!), I hate people wasting electricity and gas, I don't like noise, I don't drink very often (maybe once a month when I go out with boyfriend for a meal), I do all my own home cooking and I am certainly not lazy - full-time course with clinical placements, 2 part-time jobs and voluntary work. I would love to find people like me to live with. :A

skippie

Ok, but are the majority of students tee-total and tidy?

I think you'll find thats a resounding no.

The disrespectful of property, I should have mentioned normally occurs, when students feel their accomadation is not worth the rent, they feel they are not going to get their deposit back, and the landlord not only applies strict guidelines on the use of the property, but is also slow at responding to breakdowns and mess uups within the house.

Also a lot of student houses have a least one party during the year. You may well be tidy but can you account for the other 30+ people, who are !!!!!! and storming around the house?

freebie_junkie

skippie wrote:

Ok, but are the majority of students tee-total and tidy?

I think you'll find thats a resounding no.

The disrespectful of property, I should have mentioned normally occurs, when students feel their accomadation is not worth the rent, they feel they are not going to get their deposit back, and the landlord not only applies strict guidelines on the use of the property, but is also slow at responding to breakdowns and mess uups within the house.

Also a lot of student houses have a least one party during the year. You may well be tidy but can you account for the other 30+ people, who are !!!!!! and storming around the house?

i would never in a month of sundays let 30+ !!!!!! people roam around my flat, like i said my mates come over for dinner parties and they all drink 'real ales' which arent drunk to get wasted, theyre appreciated slowly. and its a council flat, i decorated it myself, the furniture all belongs to me and both me and my friends respect that. liek i said before, if my friends didnt respect my property and cleanliness, why woudl i bother being their friend coz theyd obviosuly think very little of me wouldnt they? noone needs friends like that.

oh, and id love to see the evidence that you base your claims upon. im a 3rd year in september and i know a handful of peopel who get wasted and live in horrid houses, my best mate is a 2nd year in september and she knows of even less of these marouding, broke !!!!!! heads you assume university towns are crawling with.

freebie_junkie

Snow_Angel wrote:

Freebie junkie - couldn't agree with you more. I actually struggle to live with other students because I'm too tidy (think Monica from friends!), I hate people wasting electricity and gas, I don't like noise, I don't drink very often (maybe once a month when I go out with boyfriend for a meal), I do all my own home cooking and I am certainly not lazy - full-time course with clinical placements, 2 part-time jobs and voluntary work. I would love to find people like me to live with. :A

i knew i wouldnt be the only one! glad to meet another student who doesnt fit with this media-come-hearsay-imposed mould! i get called monica too by my oh hehe! :rotfl:

elaine373

And there was me thinking how do i scrape together enough money to buy my daughter a laptop for uni in october!!
I think i need to start another thread for skint low income parents of students............

Kruger

skippie wrote:

Ok, but are the majority of students tee-total and tidy?

I think you'll find thats a resounding no.

The disrespectful of property, I should have mentioned normally occurs, when students feel their accomadation is not worth the rent, they feel they are not going to get their deposit back, and the landlord not only applies strict guidelines on the use of the property, but is also slow at responding to breakdowns and mess uups within the house.

Also a lot of student houses have a least one party during the year. You may well be tidy but can you account for the other 30+ people, who are !!!!!! and storming around the house?

Hit the nail on the head, without mentioning fag burns in carpets, stiletto marks in vinyl floors, spilt drinks and food which wont be properly cleaned up, loads of foood blocking the sink and drains etc etc, welcome to studentville.

kittiwoz

We have had a few large and drunken parties at our house but they have never resulted in any damage. Food and drink spills, yes, but we did clean these up. I have actually made some minor repairs and improvements to the house myself, i.e. fitting a draught excluder to the front door, fixing a leaking tap and filling a hole in the skirting board in the kitchen myself because the lanlord is not very responsive about this sort of thing. I have had some of my own personal property damaged by mice which is a problem we have tried, unsuccessfully, to rectify ourselves by filling the skirting board and laying traps and poison and have contacted the landlord about but he has failed to act. In my experience most students show more respect for their lanlord's property than student landlords show for their tenants.

skippie

Its all anecdotal evidence, as I have just finished with being a student.

Have many friends, most notably in houses of 5 or more people who all found it rather hard to live in a civilised manner, whether it be because of the 2man kitchen, one living room with 4 chairs, one toilet built into the bathroon, which incidently leaks into the living room, or the slugs that seemed to raom the downstairs floors from 11pm onwards.

Thats before you consider living with people with different habbits.