should her pocket money stop when she leaves school?

puss14

It's really up to you I guess and what your daughter is like. If you think she needs to understand money better it's not a bad idea, but myself personally would probably give her something while she is still studying. I had a part time job at the age of 15 thru to 17 but had to stop in my last year of school as it was just too much, I was working 5 days a week approx 35 hours a week plus school and i actually think it may have been this that brought on glandular fever when I was a teen. I was just permanently exhausted. My mum never gave me pocket money but she was very generous, I just felt bad taking money off her as she was working so hard it didn't feel right. I do think part time work is a good idea but it definitely needs to be not too over the top or her college work may suffer.

January20

My dd is 17 and studying in year 12 for her AS at the local high school. Since last September, and she has started receiving EMA (£20 a week) I do not give her pocket money anymore. She can supplement her EMA with some babysitting too. She has to buy her clothes, music, concert tickets, coffees and various outings out of that.

I pay for costs related to school but I agree with you that it comes a time when they have to learn the value of money.

I can say it has worked. I do have sometimes to give her a couple of £ to pay for a metro ticket into town but I don't mind that. Her attitude towards money is changing, and I get comments from her about how everything has gone up in price, even clothes from Primark!

I'd say go for it, although £10 a week is not much but you know your daughter and whether that is the incentive she needs to get a job.

When my dd is at university I will review the situation in terms of helping her financially.

Odette

My mum did this when I was 16, tbh it was one of the best things she ever did for me as now I feel i really know the value of my money. Now at 24 alot of my other friends have ended up in a load of debt due to buying things they cant afford, not me though

ciderwithrosie_2

They don't need to work many hours to earn a decent amount, my lads worked about 10-12 hours a weekend for good old Mr T and earned around £300 a month, that's not too taxing is it? They run their own mobile phone contracts and have been on holidays abroad on that money, which I'm happy for them to do while they're still young (get out and see the world). It's always good for their future job prospects to say they've done some part-time work, it shows they can manage their time effectively, not afraid to get their hands dirty and interact with people of different ages/background, apart from anything it's something to use/talk about in interviews.

All my sons' friends have part-time jobs (when at college), still getting all your income off parents at gone 16 is not cool in their eyes. We still buy toiletries, odd bits of clothing when I see it etc.

Myself and hubby always worked from age 12-13 - babysitting, paper rounds, skittle sticker-upper, hotel work, I loved having my own money.
DS3 is only 15 and is desperate to earn more money than his paper round pays him as he likes going to gigs and at £10-15 a time it's not cheap.

you could give them the Child benefit if you can afford it, but what does that teach them, and I look on that money as their living at home contribution, help pay for their food, electric, etc.

regards CWR

aylithuk

daviecol wrote: »

Hi guys my daughter is 16 and about to start her GCSEs. She will then leave school and is planning on going to college in September.

I have told her I am stopping giving her pocket money when she leaves school, this is partly to encourage her to find a part time job and also to make her understand that 'it doesn't grow on trees'.

Am I being to tough on her or do you think this is right?

All comments will be gratefully received.

My mum and dad stopped my pocket money when I was 12 and got a paper round.

When I went to collage I got a job in the morning at a local hotel as a chamber maid so it didn't effect my collage life because i would be finished work before collage started.

Tell you something - Having £50-70 per week in my pocket as a collage gal I never ever had to ask my mum for any hand outs.

katy1987

apologies if i am repeating something which has already been said, but here's my 2p worth:

when i went to college it was just before the EMA was introduced. i was lucky; my mum paid for my bus fare (living 1.5 hours away from college it was very expensive!), £3 a day for lunch, and also paid for my contact lenses. i got an evening and weekend job to cover anything else i wanted to buy. i was very busy but very happy with my relative independence!

i also used my earned money to buy college supplies (art, literature and photography = lots of expenses).

flimsier

daviecol wrote: »

Hi guys my daughter is 16 and about to start her GCSEs. She will then leave school and is planning on going to college in September.

I have told her I am stopping giving her pocket money when she leaves school, this is partly to encourage her to find a part time job and also to make her understand that 'it doesn't grow on trees'.

Am I being to tough on her or do you think this is right?

All comments will be gratefully received.

Asolutely stop it. I presume you're still feeding her and so on, but she should get EMA, and can get a job. She's also got to learn that at some point she needs to pay bills, for food, etc.

jamespir

she can get ema so yes you could stop paying her

tired_mum

i have a 17 year old and i stopped Pocket money when she left school and gave her her child benefit straight into her bank account she also got a PT job as she went on to college we are not entitled to EMA she was lucky to get a job but she knows that she has to pay for her own outings and spending money but we will buy her basic clothes and books for college and obviously her food but anything else is for her to buy. The only problem is quite a few of her year at school struggled to get work so i think its all right and definately the way to go as long as she puts in the time to get a little job if not then i would keep on with the pocket money unless she doesnt make the effort to get a job then i would stop all monies

debjay

I stopped my DS pocket money at 16 which was October and he is now in middle of GCSEs. This was to encourage him to get a pt job which I dont think would interfere with his studies/revision. I do, however, still buy everything he needs but not necessarily everything wants. He is half-heartedly looking and I think its really important to encourage independence and less reliance on parents and handouts :cool: