Rights on overnight contact

shellsuit

Loobysaver wrote: »

Hiya,

Can you tell me whether my partners ex can prevent overnight stays with us for their children on the basis that they don't have their own living space i.e bed etc.

When my partners children stay over (if they are allowed) there will be 5 children having to share 1 normal sized bedroom and a tiny box room. It will be a squeeze but we can manage with some topping and tailing and one sleeping on an air bed.

If it went to court, how would they view it?

So, 2 rooms between the 5 of them. Are one of those bedrooms yours?

If not, you and your OH could sleep downstairs and the children would have 3 bedrooms.

How long would they be stopping over if it was allowed?

delain

I wouldn't turn my bedroom over to kids of 8 and up, purely because my DD1 (7) is incredibly nosy and would rifle through my drawers etc and I just don't think it's right unless you're in the room with them!

I have three children (soon to be 4) in two rooms the same as you described. If the access is granted you could put to the court that you will buy bunk beds to replace the existing beds which will double the bed space you have and then you can have boys in one room girls in the other and only one will need an airbed.

skiTTish

You say one small sized room AND a box room ?
That's 2 bedrooms ,boys in one ,girls in tuther .#they should have their own beds though ,even if airbeds .
BUT
Of Course mum can object to the kids staying over .
It does not necessarily mean she is vindictive ..
Does she know you and your kids well enough ?
I certainly wouldn't want my kids staying with anyone unless I vetted them ,put yourself in her shoes

vaio

Got a garden? Get some tents

skiTTish

vaio wrote: »

Got a garden? Get some tents

I was thinking the same for summer months but safety could be an issue for mum if the garden isnt secure

vaio

secure? do you mean "secure" like an ordinary camp site with a couple of hundred strangers all camping in the same field? or are you thinking of razor wire fences and guard towers?

skiTTish

vaio wrote: »

secure? do you mean "secure" like an ordinary camp site with a couple of hundred strangers all camping in the same field? or are you thinking of razor wire fences and guard towers?

No secure as in - we dont want to give the ex any reason to make excuses to stop contact !
And on a campsite we usually sleep in the same tent as our kids not in the house next door

heretolearn_2

bunk beds in the bedroom and a bed in the box room. Sofa bed downstairs and one on an airbed. Sorted.

Apricot

When I was younger and my stepdad's children used to stay there used to be four of us in one room - we were all similar aged and all female though.
I would be inclined to put oldest two in the living room and the younger split between the bedrooms dependant on age and sex.
How many bedrooms do your partners children have between them in their own home? It sounds a little like the ex is trying to manipulate the situation. As long as you can work a way that the children can still have some sort of privacy when they come to stay I cannot see any judge telling a father that he can't have his children to stay.

Loobysaver

Thanks for your replies. Yes the ex does have issues with me and has been threatening lack of access for ages if my partner moves in with me. However it has been well over a year now and the children don't seem to have any problems at all with me so me and my partner are just going to have to weather the storm.

I was posting really as was wondering if the courts could refuse access due to lack of beds etc.

I was kinda thinking that my 2 could top and tail in the box room and my partners 3 could share the other bedroom. There are 2 beds in there so it would mean 1 either sleeping on the floor on an air bed, topping and tailing with a sibling or sleeping downstairs on the sofa. Partners ex is adamant at the moment that they won't sleep over but then she also says that if they did stay she wanted them to have their own beds/living space which just isn't feasible.

If we could afford to move we could but we unfortunately can't.