CSA here we go

mrsspendalot

ballsonyournose wrote: »

its go to to be pretty stressful getting the sack, perhaps you could have backed off a bit instead of pushing for maintenance when he didnt have a job.

Good on you for applying through the CSA, if hes got money coming in, some of it has to go to his kids.

Well it may have been stressful for him, but it was his own fault ... 37 disciplinary actions against you in less than a year and sacked for misconduct isn't excusable. He maybe should have tried harder to keep his job and then we all could have avoided a lot of stress.

Innocenti

mrsspendalot wrote: »

Well it may have been stressful for him, but it was his own fault ... 37 disciplinary actions against you in less than a year and sacked for misconduct isn't excusable. He maybe should have tried harder to keep his job and then we all could have avoided a lot of stress.

i am sorry mrsspendalot but i am really shocked by your post. You say that your ex paid regular as clockwork and even payed you extra then you give him grief when he loses his job! You even admitted that his girlfriend had to support him whilst unemployed, and instead of abit of understanding you give him grief for "dropping you in it".

Yes, you did suddenly lose the maintenance but he lost his job, didnt walk out of it to avoid paying you but lost his job. His 37 disciplinary actions are really none of your business!

As he is now working again he has told you to go to the CSA to get it all done proper which you have done, at least you know he is going to co-operate with then and you will start to get your money again.

mrsspendalot

Well clearly my emotional attachment to the situation is clouding my judgement - sorry to have caused any shock or offence. I am angry with him, I can't deny it, I think I could have been more understanding had he lost it through redundancy rather than misconduct - and if it hadn't been the first job he had lost that way. However, I am glad he now has another job.

This is the just the tip of the iceberg, but I'm not prepared to go into more detail on here.

I'm more concerned about his current attitude towards seeing his children at the moment - but that's not a CSA issue.