When to tell the CSA?

CSA_Help

ballsonyournose wrote: »

Fair call, name calling is out of order, but those are some facts.

Am sure alot of people have horror stories, and alot some great resolutions. Havnt the slightest problem supporting my son, just wish £15k could have spend on his education rather than lawyers.
If PWC's have the right for support, i reckon it should be easier to get contact with your child than having to spend a year in court.

Funny thing is, if the NRP doesnt pay child support, thay can go to jail. If the PWC ignores a contact order, at least in Scotland, there is nothing the courts will do.

Scottish court system sucks at times .At least you had the "balls" to fight her though good on you

CSA_Help

chriszzz wrote: »

CSA_Help,

I know there are genuine NRPs who don't have a say, I live with one who has an ex who has and still does contact block and being a PWC myself I have seen just how biased this country is against the NRP and their rights..

I have never come between my son and his father, yet I have another 2 children to my first partner now he never had any contact or paid child support so you can say I have been on both sides of the coin.

I don't come on here and start calling him names and so forth, the past is the past, my 2 children were brought up the best I could, if I was to ever call him, it would be for having no contact because that's all that mattered to the children, was not having contact (not saying NRPs shouldnt pay).

My son who sees his dad regularly gets no child support due to dad being on DLA, if his dad was to stop seeing him, it wouldnt be the money that would upset him it would be no contact.

I dont think it does anyone any good by being nasty, we know some circumstances is unfair for both PWC and NRPs alike but I like to think am listening to mature adults on here who have problems that they need help or advice to send them into the right direction to resolve their problem.

Ok i hear what your saying but it shows that you are not the contact blocking type .A bit of light hearted humour doesn't go amiss on these forums .We are all getting stuffed one way or another either through the pwc NRP csa or the courts .
So please don't preach

PlayingHardball

I don't think the post was 'preaching' in any way shape or form. I agree, we have all been stuffed in one way or another, but can't we all be adults and save the namecalling please

jacklink

so do i get this right, you earn about £1000, £1,500 a week and your moaning :eek:, contrary to what people may think if i earned that much i would gladly offer what is required and give the kids all the trimmings plus, why do i get the impression that your living beyond the means of the majority subject to such issues.

most people (sorry for generalizing) especially nrp's live on the bones of there ar*e and lucky if they have enough to eat. whereas pwc are worrying if the next payment will come to be able to pay the bills.

are we seeing a new spectrum of 'casualty's' of the c.s.a. due to politics?

jacklink

and you can afford to drop your salary from £1000, a week to £500 a week approx? something not right here

Kimitatsu

*BOARD GUIDE COMMENT*

I realise that wherever the CSA is involved there are high level emotions on both sides but please keep this on topic or I will have no choice but to close the thread, so please no name calling on either side

jacklink I realise that with all of us our own experiences colour the advice we give but I think that the generalisation that most NRP's are exceptionally poor is simply not true.

Whatever the OP's financial situation is then it is not for us to comment, he has come on here asking for advice and I would hope that he has found the advice useful.

I would remid you of one of the forum rules please be nice to all money savers

jacklink

Kimitatsu i have to disagree with your judgment - i played it fair on both sides, i.e. my comments suggested that nrp cant afford to eat and r.p. cant pay bills.

thus destitution on both sides -

i only know of poor nrps, if my judgment is coloured, forgive my bias.

thankyou

jacklink

but howay, he lives on a grand a grand and a half a week and can afford to stop working so much and still get £500 a week, he's on a different planet to us.

as god is my witness if i earned as much as him i would give my kids £1000 a week and still be rich on £500.

a disgruntled M.P. i suspect

DUTR

jacklink wrote: »

but howay, he lives on a grand a grand and a half a week and can afford to stop working so much and still get £500 a week, he's on a different planet to us.

as god is my witness if i earned as much as him i would give my kids £1000 a week and still be rich on £500.

a disgruntled M.P. i suspect

That is what you would do, I wouldn't , as an nrp pay what you are supposed to, if you want to give anything extra that is up to you, likewise a PWC can claim what they are entitled to and if they want to put any extra that is up to them.
The amount one puts on the table is not a measure of how good a parent they are

chriszzz

DUTR wrote: »

The amount one puts on the table is not a measure of how good a parent they are

Absolutely spot on!! :T