need to find somewhere to rent

kittykate_2

Hi
I'm living at home after finishing uni and I hate it. It's alright sometimes but my mum gets very moody and I can't cope anymore. She had a bad day at work today and when she got home she tried to start an argument with me. I walked away thinking it was the best thing to do but it wasn't cos she just came up to my room and began to shout at me. I hadn't even done anything. I got angry and I told her to P*** off, I didn't mean to say it but she wound me up so much. My dad then came in and shouted at me for saying that and I kept saying "but I didn't do anything to make her row with me' cos I didn't. He then told me I have to move out, and he meant it.
I've worked 55 hours already this week to try earn some money to pay my overdraft off and I'm tired and I don't need this kind of thing. I'm sat here crying my eyes out feeling so lonely. I have no friends here at home, they all live miles away. All I do is work. I work 10 hours at a time and the last day off I had was last weds. I'm so miserable and now I've been told to move out.
Where do I start? How can I find somewhere to rent? I can't afford much at the moment. I dunno what to do.

KKx

sarahlouise210

Make it up with your Mum and Dad! You are feeling low but your Mum was too after her bad day...ok she should not have unloaded on you but you shouldnot have spoken to her like that either! If you really want to move out ..realistically you will need to share with someone. This could be good as you will get new friends. You will need to continue working hard though to pay the bills. If things are really bad you can go to the Council and say you will be homeless as your mum and dad want you out - the council may need a letter from them but this could get you emergency housing while you wait for a council place. Good Luck..cheer up .. things will get better

BobProperty

kittykate wrote:

.... but my mum gets very moody .....

Er, I'm only a fence-sitting cat but maybe your mum has some problems of her own?

liz545

kittykate wrote:

Hi
I'm living at home after finishing uni and I hate it. It's alright sometimes but my mum gets very moody and I can't cope anymore.
KKx

I'm really sorry to hear you're struggling; I agree with the other posters that you should try and patch things up with your folks, because something like this can easily snowball into you moving out and losing contact. Maybe you should try and explain to your dad - when you're calm and haven't just had a run-in with your mum - that you're both tired and stressed and rubbing each other up the wrong way. It's entirely likely that they've become used to a bit more space while you were at uni, and now you're treading on each others toes.

Long term, moving out may be something you want to think about doing. Where are your friends living? Talk to them about the cost of renting, and whether there are plenty of nice properties available, or whether it's a tough market. Could you find a similar job in that area, or are you tied to your current location? If you want to start renting, primelocation.com, gumtree.com and findaproperty.com will be good for getting an idea of prices.
Don't forget you'll need your first months' rent in advance, and a deposit of around 4-6 weeks rent; and money for bills and council tax. Alternatively, you might want to consider flatsharing with your friends - this is more affordable than a flat on your own, and less lonely too.

If your parents really are serious about you moving out, do get in touch with the council, and also Shelter, who have a 24-hour advice line on 0808 800 444. Besides housing, the council should have a children & young people's services department; tell them all about the situation, as you sound like you need all the support you can get. Our thoughts are with you!