Eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow.....

margaretclare

Well, DH and I haven't done anything so drastic as some people, but when we first got together in the autumn of 1997, many people of our age-group disapproved. For them, falling in love all over again aged 62 seemed a 'step too far'. Widows that I knew said 'why can't you be happy living on your memories'. DH took a huge step walking away from a disastrous marriage and a houseful of worldly goods to move in with me.

We both feel strongly that 'life is for living'.

seven-day-weekend

I think falling in love again at 62 is terrific! I wouldn't use the word 'drastic', but it's pretty stunning.

As for the people who disapproved, some people disapproved of what we did too. One person who my husband thought was a good friend has not spoken to him from that day (when he announced his early retirement) to this - even when my husband rang him he just refused to speak to him

Some do not want you to have happiness , for some unknown reason, and some are just jealous.

hethmar

My sister remarried at the age of 60 - in Barbados. She had been a widow for 4 years and as we all agreed, 60 is no age now and she could be a long time alone with just her memories. A few people in her village were aghast at her remarrying but good luck to her and she is very happy. The one thing that has also come from losing her dear husband at the age of only 54 was that she also lives for the day now and goes on very adventurous holidays. In fact thats how she met her second husband - both of them were snow mobiling in Canada

seven-day-weekend

What a nice thread this is, full of hope and forward-lookingness (is there such a word?).

Makes a lovely change.

margaretclare

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I think falling in love again at 62 is terrific! I wouldn't use the word 'drastic', but it's pretty stunning.

As for the people who disapproved, some people disapproved of what we did too. One person who my husband thought was a good friend has not spoken to him from that day (when he announced his early retirement) to this - even when my husband rang him he just refused to speak to him

Some do not want you to have happiness , for some unknown reason, and some are just jealous.

Thank you, 7DWE.

We are even more convinced that it was the right thing to do when he was so ill and nearly died in the autumn of 2008. We're thankful for each day that dawns, each day that we're together.

We've had some wonderful holidays, seen some gorgeous places, ever since we got together.

I think you're right that some people don't want us to be happy. Looking at the faces of some of those miserable old widows that I still see around, I don't see them being 'happy with their memories'!

azureblue_2

Wow, fab thread folks. I remarried in my 40's and it's worked out well for us both. Now retired/not working we find it hard to do the expensive side of life i.e. holidays but can wake up most days when we like at least.
Be here now.