Boyfriend wants to move in

jules9

I'm a gay male and my boyfriend is keen to move in with me.
He works closeby and in London so would only be looking to stay in my house for 4 nights a week and then spend the other 3 in London.
I own the house outright and am seeking advice as to what his "rights" would be regarding residency in the house.
Does it make a difference if i charge him some form of rent as to his rights.
I'm not being unkind but we all know that relationships dont always work out and i dont want to get myself into a situation where he refuses to move out!
Advice please

RAS

If he is sharing your accomodation (kitchen and bathroom) he is a lodger, so can be asked to move out any time.

I am assuming you are not going to put him on the house deeds?

Becky1983

Jules9 I think I know what you mean as after so many years arent you basically 'classed as married' in the eyes of the law and the person living with you might be entitled to some of your possessions.

Not sure how it works or the law but its worth asking on here, good luck. x

RAS

Becky1983 wrote: »

Jules9 I think I know what you mean as after so many years arent you basically 'classed as married' in the eyes of the law and the person living with you might be entitled to some of your possessions.

Not sure how it works or the law but its worth asking on here, good luck. x

No. There is no such thing in law as the mythical common law "marriage".

As long as jules does not put BF on the deeds and does not allow BF to make a major contribution to the house (like taking out a £20K loan to fund an extension), BF has no rights.

Unless they enter a civil partnership and then I expect that jules and BF would have different priorities anyway.

BitterAndTwisted

Just to keep things as uncomplicated as possible why don't you just ask him to make a modest contribution towards food-costs when he's there?

kinglewis

http://www.direct.gov.uk/prod_consum_dg/groups/dg_digitalassets/@dg/@en/documents/digitalasset/dg_067362.pdf

sukysue

I don't think you should enter into this without legal consultation . You need to protect your interests.

gratefulforhelp_2

Jules, congratulations and good that you are being pragmatic. Can you get a free half-hour with a solicitor, or legal advice through your union/house insurance? Just to check it out.

Advice I have had in similar situations is...not to allow any visible contributions by BF to household budget, ie things that show up on bank statements. What you could do is get him to pay for groceries, while you cover the rest.

This may leave you out of pocket, but is simpler. I don't know, though, how the advice would change for a part-time arrangement. If he's staying in London in his own place, it may be simpler to protect yourself financially.

At some point, though, I guess you will have to decide to trust him with the possibility that he will make a claim on your equity - if thats what worries you?

JA1000

jules9 wrote: »

I'm a gay male and my boyfriend is keen to move in with me.

Does this really matter? I am not sure I see the relevance a partner is a partner.

GDB2222

JA1000 wrote: »

Does this really matter? I am not sure I see the relevance a partner is a partner.

Ah, now you are being really PC.

Fire_Fox

JA1000 wrote: »

Does this really matter? I am not sure I see the relevance a partner is a partner.

Perhaps Jules didn't want it to be assumed that he is female, loads of people don't like their gender to be mistaken.