RANT !!! Good friend not coming to wedding!

shellylovesshopping

Sent out save the date messages via facebook to close friends in October last year - all accepted and today had RSVP back from a very good friend who cannot make it as she is going away for the weekend. Really upset as we were really close before I move 125 miles away - we keep in weekly contact and out of the blue shes not coming.

Maybe im taking it too much to heart but im really upset !:mad:

Gleeful

Are you getting married soon? Seems really strange she has booked to go away that weekend. Maybe she's just like me, I only know what day it is when I look at my timetable at work. So much to think about my brain just doesn't retain all the information. I'd be maaaad too if I was you. Have you asked her about it? I would x

joolesw1972

I'd be upset too, could it be that she can't afford it and doesn't want to say? Might be worth giving her a ring and having a chat? Have you talked about the wedding in the last few months? Has she indicated she was coming?
People are funny! I think anyone who hasn't organised a wedding has no idea of the work or expense involved! If they did they wouldn't be so flakey!!!

shellylovesshopping

We get married on 5th June so not that far away! She even commented that she was out looking for hats! Arrgghhh.

Pazu

I didn't go to my best friend's wedding and still regret it thirty years and five children (between us) later. My own husband was an alchoholic so not only could I not afford it but he would have spoilt it. I have never confessed to her. Sorry Jacqui.

shellsuit

Pazu wrote: »

I didn't go to my best friend's wedding and still regret it thirty years and five children (between us) later. My own husband was an alchoholic so not only could I not afford it but he would have spoilt it. I have never confessed to her. Sorry Jacqui.

Oh that's so sad



Shelly, did your friend say what was on that weekend?! I've only word of mouthed my good friends upto now and all of them are coming upto now ~ saying that though, as long as OH, the kids, and my parents are there, I doubt I would miss anyone else! xx

manda1205

I know exactly how you feel too. My friend of about 18yrs (10 of them being really close best friends) isnt coming to my wedding either, shes just had a baby and the grandparents have arranged to come visit on the weekend we're getting married. I was really quite hurt, after being friends so long and she was the one who set me and OH up at school many years ago. It would have been so nice to have her there and see her new baby too.
So know exactly how you feel, Im just glad my closest friends who live locally are coming and feel glad in the knowledge that they are happy to help me and arrange my hen.
Do you have some other close friends who can cheer you up too?

aaronm_2

Don't be sad and I hope you will recover soon. Nobody can destory your happiest day in life. If she is a truly good friend that she will send her best wishes for you. Wish you a happy wedding ceremony!

ellay864

I can understand how you feel but you will still have a great day and as Pazu says, it will probably be her that ends up regretting it more than you. When I married my oldest friend was due to be my chief bridesmaid but a few months before the wedding she went off travelling the world for 5 months...that got extended and she ended up staying in Australia while I got married. I was quite hurt at the time but realised that MY big day was just that...MINE. She had a chance to travel that wouldnt come again. Possibly your friend doesn't realise what a big deal it is (has she married?) and genuinely wouldn't appreciate how much it hurts you. If she seems OK after your wedding try not to let there be bad feeling as it would be a shame to let this spoil your friendship

buzby_boy

I know how you feel we have had the same happen with friends dropping out and now my OH good friend has dropped out and he is quite hurt.
To top it off my sister is not coming to my hen night saying she cant aford it which is fine in itself as i do live 200 miles away but she tavels all around the country each weekend going to dog shows and staying over night in hotels costing more than my hen night will be so all she would have to do is give up one of them but hay ho the dog shows are more important to her.

I would talk to your friend and find out why she has done this as it cant be a money thing if she is going away and had plenty of notice.

I'm June 5th as well its 10 weeks today

Evansangel

buzby_boy wrote: »

I'm June 5th as well its 10 weeks today

Not revelevant to the thread but, im 5th June to!