Do you expect a 15 month old child to try and communicate?

Gingham_Ribbon

ariba10 wrote: »

If someone came on here and said their child spoke a sentence at four months, there would be someone whose child did it at three months.

Although there is plenty of competitive parenting going on on this board and everywhere else, this sort of comment always makes me wary of mentioning my own children.

Mine was one of the comments about a child who communicated exceptionally early and throughout the thread I've been pointing out that comparing children isn't helpful. I have even deleted 2 posts this week about him as I was giving the OP info about dealing with a child with asynchronous development but didn't want to leave them up for everyone to see. (As I also deleted my post on here answering what the joke was that he told me at 7 months old.)

And yet, when it comes to his problems with his dyspraxia, apart from the occasional comment that maybe I'm not parenting him properly, no-one bats an eyelid. So I find, as many parents of high gifted children do, that I keep my mouth shut for fear of being accused of lying, exaggerating, trying to make other people feel bad or making out I'm some kind of perfect parent.

I've heard the 'genius child' comments (like the one earlier) plenty, usually from people who have overheard him and stopped to talk to us, and it's not always polite. He got picked on by an adult last week and all we were doing was trying to buy shoes.

So yes, sometimes there will be a child who can talk at 3 months. 'So what' is my question.

jellyhead

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

And yet, when it comes to his problems with his dyspraxia, apart from the occasional comment that maybe I'm not parenting him properly, no-one bats an eyelid.

That's because you're mentioning problems people read it and either identify with it and swap advice, or feel smug because their child is superior to yours in whatever respect you are talking about

I remember a thread a while back where someone said their 3 year old needed something more challenging to read, and got the 'yeah, right' comments or people assuming she was bragging. She was only asking for advice on different books, not bragging, but people were quite rude I thought

Gingham_Ribbon

jellyhead wrote: »

I remember a thread a while back where someone said their 3 year old needed something more challenging to read, and got the 'yeah, right' comments or people assuming she was bragging. She was only asking for advice on different books, not bragging, but people were quite rude I thought

Yes. I remember that too. So much for the 'every child matters' ethos.

Spongbong

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

He got picked on by an adult last week and all we were doing was trying to buy shoes.

What on earth did the adult say? How awful; how did you handle it?

Spongbong

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

I didn't handle it very well to be honest - I just ignored it, but spoke to my son about it afterwards and he was fine. She told him to shut up. All he was doing was asking questions and talking (constantly). What's this material? How does this work? Maybe when I'm older I'll invent a machine that will deliver the shoes straight to the customer so you don't have to go in the back to look for them. etc etc.

I know the sheer volume of questions can be overwhelming for some people but there was no need to tell him to shut up. He wasn't being cheeky or naughty.

Wow, what a miserable cowbag. LOL at the shoe-retrieving machine though, it's a good idea!:rotfl: