Maintainance, not under CSA

Kimitatsu

freddie2 wrote: »

Thank you for those who have given factual information rather than opinions. As I said I am not particularly interested in the underpayments. My ex is now a very wealthy man and has been for the last ten years, and in order to try to ensure he maintains a relationship with my daughter I have agreed that he pay far less than he would under the CSA, and I accept this was my fault!
However what I wanted to know is how straight forward is it to enforce an existing court order for spousal maintainance.
As for me having a new partner yes I do, after 19 years of being a single parent I do, although we do not as yet live together....hardly having my cake!!!!!!

Lets all be nice please people!!

You can enforce the order for spousal maintenance at any time, the order stipulates that he will pay you £185 a month until you marry. If he doesnt pay then take him back to court, and ask them to enforce it.

freddie2

Thank you Kimitatsu

DX2

freddie2 wrote: »

Thank you for those who have given factual information rather than opinions. As I said I am not particularly interested in the underpayments. My ex is now a very wealthy man and has been for the last ten years, and in order to try to ensure he maintains a relationship with my daughter I have agreed that he pay far less than he would under the CSA, and I accept this was my fault!
However what I wanted to know is how straight forward is it to enforce an existing court order for spousal maintainance.
As for me having a new partner yes I do, after 19 years of being a single parent I do, although we do not as yet live together....hardly having my cake!!!!!!

freddie2 wrote: »

Wondered if anyone can come up with any suggestions?
My partner divorced 2 years ago and has a daughter now aged 15. In order to protect his pension a settlement was negotiated and he signed the former marital home over (equity approx 120k) some savings and pays 15% of his salary in maintainence. Since the split he has made strides in his career and pays approx £900 ( not via CSA) We have no problem with this arrangement. However daughter has now said that she would like to come and live with us once she has completed her GCSEs. My partner would be delighted if this were to happen but it will have an impact on our living arrangements ( we will have to buy a house as we currently live in a flat). Obviously we will expect his ex to pay maintainence (and I am sure she will) however it seems a bit unfair she gets to keep the 4 bed house when the child will no longer be living there
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That's not living together...strange.

freddie2

I do indeed live in a flat and hopefully he will join me when he returns from working overseas.

Kimitatsu

However if the court order stipulates marriage then you can still claim spousal maintenance. Many court order stipulate either marriage or living together for a period of more than 6 months, but up until that time legally you can enforce the agreement.

As your step-daughter to be is 15 then the arrangement would have been made under a court order just the same as yours so his ex wife is entitled to keep her house. After all if he is not paying £900 a month to upkeep his daughter I am sure you could afford a nice property.

freddie2

Thanks, the court order only stipulates marriage.
Unfortunately we will have to move to an expensive area.....so a large deposit will be needed and the equity in my flat is fairly small.

speedster

i'm sure the money from your ex husband of 20 years will come in handy then.........

i should imagine that by now, the court order would be easily overturned if he contested it. after all, your child has become an adult and there's no real need for him to continue to support you as you have chosen not to remarry in 20 odd years.

makes you wonder why?

maggied_2

Interesting that you believe your partner's ex should give up what she received in their divorce too!

Kimitatsu

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