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Brother's wife secretly trying to divorce him

Asianchick
Asianchick Posts: 80 Forumite
in House buying, renting & selling
Hi

My brother's wife is secretly trying to divorce him. They have 3 kids and live in a council property. She has been committing adultery.

Can she kick him out? Both of their names are on the tenancy agreeement and I have told him not to leave. Why should he? It is her decision to go with other men and disrupt her children's lives. If he leaves, he'll have nowhere to live.
Thanks in advance.
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  • DVardysShadow
    DVardysShadow Posts: 18,949 Forumite
    Crossposted. Probably better discussed on the relationships forum.
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  • poppysarah
    poppysarah Posts: 11,522 Forumite
    He should ask her to go to marriage guidance with him. Seeking mediation might not be what he wants to do but is best to get some professional advice right away.

    He could ask her to leave and stay with the kids. Who's the main carer?
  • poppy10_2
    poppy10_2 Posts: 6,597 Forumite
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    If he is on the tenancy agreement then she cannot force him to leave - only the landlord (the council) can do that.
    poppy10
  • mcduff16
    mcduff16 Posts: 498 Forumite
    Tell your brother to stay put, if she wants to leave let her but he has done nothing wrong
  • poppysarah
    poppysarah Posts: 11,522 Forumite
    I love the idea of the divorce being secret... secret from who? :)
  • renegade
    renegade Posts: 1,282 Forumite
    Not very 'secret' if he knows about it is it????????????
    You live..You learn.:)
  • Jowo_2
    Jowo_2 Posts: 8,308 Forumite
    The council website or tenancy handbook will make clear how the council deal with someone wanting to take over a joint tenancy. The Shelter website has a section that deals with how relationship breakdown are affected by certain types of tenancy .
  • bandofbrothers
    bandofbrothers Posts: 442 Forumite
    The children are the most important here !

    At a young age they can pick up on issues within the home.

    Ok she has strayed but their is always two sides to a relationship.

    If the relationship is not mendable then move on and seek access.
  • VIGILANT22
    VIGILANT22 Posts: 2,516 Forumite
    Allways two sides (usually 3) to a story........
  • Asianchick
    Asianchick Posts: 80 Forumite
    Hey.

    I have also posted on the relationships board for the relationship aspect but came on this bit for the tenancy part of the problem.

    Maybe 'in secret' is not the phrase. I meant he found some papers for the divorce solicitor and is shocked as he had no clue she would do this. She doesnt know that he knows. Yes, I know, it sounds so stupid. I have told him that they have to talk. All this cloak and dagger stuff is so childish.

    Thanks for your responses, I will advise him to stay put.
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