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Feeling tearful

God I don’t know what is up with me at the moment

Im stressed out about boyf and not utterly convinced he is any nearer his LB moment than 6 months ago, still spending like there is no tomorrow, and in fact it is worse as he seems to have developed an ebay addiction. All of which has been on my mind for the past few weeks. He sold his car to pay his CC and has spent the lot on I don’t know what and it has really peed me of. Obviously he is still pre-LB and it frustrates me beyond belief.

My grandad’s cancer has come back worse than before and I am worried about that and to top it all off Im snowed at work and obviously have a stressed look on my face, hence every single person has asked me if I am ok. I have said about a million times that I am fine, just want to be left alone!! I just lost it at a colleague (she had asked me about 12 times to come to the pub to “talk” and about 11 times I had said im fine just need to be left alone and get on with my work – the last time I snapped and said “Look I just want to be left alone, I’m fine” and stormed off (outside of my building luckily and burst into tears! Now feel like a complete prat!)

Sorry – rant over!
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  • wigginsmum
    wigginsmum Posts: 4,150 Forumite
    Have a hug, sweetheart - not a lot else I can say.
    The ability of skinny old ladies to carry huge loads is phenomenal. An ant can carry one hundred times its own weight, but there is no known limit to the lifting power of the average tiny eighty-year-old Spanish peasant grandmother.
  • cantcope
    cantcope Posts: 1,886 Forumite
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    Sending big hugs to you.

    Try not to worry about your b/f. its his problem, not yours. sounds like you have enough on your mind without worrying about him too.

    Not long left of the working day. Just power through it and put a big sign on your desk saying "im fine, now pee off!"
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  • Tondella
    Tondella Posts: 934 Forumite
    Bad day :( leave the boyfriend thing to one side for the time being, and just concentrate on getting through the rest of friday. Do you have some small achieveable goals on your work to-do list that you can finish off easily and tick off with satisfaction? You might feel better walking away from work tonight knowing that at least one or two things are done.

    It's good that people at work are concerned about you, I'm sure when you're feeling more like it you can get some of this off your shoulders by chatting to them. Couple of days and you will feel more like your old self and be able to come to terms with the things happening in your life. till then, keep your chin up love.
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  • susie76
    susie76 Posts: 59 Forumite
    Hugs for your bad day, we all have to have 'em. When you get home, grab your pillow, punch the hell out of it, then pick it up, put it over your face and scream as loud as you can. Then go eat ice cream. Works for me! Re the boyf, it must be tough, but you can't make someone see the light(bulb). Sorry to hear about your Grandad.Hope the weekend gets better..
  • loopyloulou_3
    loopyloulou_3 Posts: 1,269 Forumite
    thanks all! just having one of those days where i feel like !!!!!! and really feel up against it! just need to find a quiet corner and have a scream!
  • elantan
    elantan Posts: 21,022 Forumite
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    loopy i think most people on here are feeling the same just now ..don't know if it's the weather or not ..i noticed that molanol had noticed it and started a happy thread..you know youcan't really help your bf till he has his l.b.m it's just a case of waiting and putting up ....sometimes i think my hubby has had his ..then something happens and i'm like arrggghhh ....it will take time ..you know this ..but your quite entitled to feel down about it every now and then...as for your grandpa i'm very sorry to hear his news ...if it is looking bad though you have a short while to prepare yourself...not that anyone is every ready...as for work it's friday...try to stay positive till you get home.. when you get done go home and have a good cry to yourself ..watch a weepy film eat rubbish food ..tomorrow is another day...sneding youhugs and hoping for the best ...good luck loopy ...remember your not alone
  • lynzpower
    lynzpower Posts: 25,311 Forumite
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    right lady, lets get together for a moan soon :)
    :beer: Well aint funny how its the little things in life that mean the most? Not where you live, the car you drive or the price tag on your clothes.
    Theres no dollar sign on piece of mind
    This Ive come to know...
    So if you agree have a drink with me, raise your glasses for a toast :beer:
  • loopyloulou_3
    loopyloulou_3 Posts: 1,269 Forumite
    susie - that sounds like an excellent plan!! watch out pillow here i come!
  • Floss
    Floss Posts: 9,306 Forumite
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    :grouphug: hope you feel better soon.....hope your Grandad does too.....write a big sign that says "do not disturb :)" and stick it on your desk!

    This weather isn't helping...I'm not sleeping and am starting to get a bit worn out & stressy myself ;)
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  • loopyloulou_3
    loopyloulou_3 Posts: 1,269 Forumite
    lynz - def have to get together soon x I'll PM you and we can arrange something, my turn to buy lunch - and its pay day monday! how you feeling hun!

    i am now sitting here with bright red eyes looking like ive been in a boxing match! beautiful! think there is def something in the suggestion that it might be weather related - the heat makes me feel so much worse,
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