Ex not using a car seat for our son.

lauren_1

My ex has fleeting contact with out son but when he does he picks him up in his car, i noticed that he does not actually use a car seat.

Our son is 3,not 4 until june and is very small, i still have to use his britax eclipse and that has plenty of room left too!

The ex claims that it is fine using just a booster with no back support, he knows this is not the case but will do it just to rile my feathers (im a pro supporter of extended rear facing seats) not even our 8 year old daughter gets away with just a plain booster seat (he has just cut all contact from our daughter too)

What can i do?, i am already portrayed as a evil mum as i am refusing to let him see our dd even though i have forwarded every e-mail from him wanting to cut contact to every stupid bint and idiot that has believed him on that matter but i am reluctant to allow ds with him until he gets a proper carseat for him. This will end badly for me if i do but my ds's safety is my only priority....he is pushing me to say it, i know he is.

any help would be greatly appreciated.

onlyroz

A booster is all you're legally obliged to use.

Apricot

How much does your child weigh? Im pretty sure they need to be in a proper car seat until they weigh at least 40lb.
Personally, I would refuse to allow your DS to go if he wasn't restrained adequately, it's just not worth the risk. If he is resisting buying his own car seat could he not use your one whilst he has DS?

Gingham_Ribbon

He is doing what he's legally obliged to do so asking him to do more could be seen as unreasonable. Would you be prepared to buy another seat for him if you're worried about it and would he use it if you did?

Although I believe in providing the safest seats for children, I also believe that what dad does with his kids is up to him, as long as he's treating them well. It's better for your son to travel with a booster seat than see mummy and daddy fighting in my opinion.

http://www.childcarseats.org.uk/types/index.htm

lauren_1

He weighs 30lbs. and used 18-24mnth clothing

katglasgow

How about you explain that you feel it is still necessary for your son but offer to let him use yours? It would cost a lot for him to buy a brand new one, especially when your DS does not see him that often and is likely to outgrow it in the next year?

daveyjp

Up to 15kg it is recommended using a seat with built in straps - after this a seat belt can be used and if the booster seat raises the height enough this is adequate.

lauren_1

Its just the cushion he is using, not the one with a back support

lauren_1

They are £45 in halfords at the moment, no i will not lend him mine as he has already failed to return 5 coats, shoes and my dd's booster seat, bike etc etc.

He has a full booster seat of my dd's that is suitable but chooses not to use it

rachfriar78

lauren_1 wrote: »

(he has just cut all contact from our daughter too)

Sorry this line concerned me more than the car seat issue. I would not let him have contact with one child and not the other. Your daughter could have issues later on when it comes to her dad not picking her up and favouring her brother!

Gingham_Ribbon

lauren_1 wrote: »

He has a full booster seat of my dd's that is suitable but chooses not to use it

He sounds peachy.

Unless he's a dangerous driver on top of being less than adorable, I'd bite my tongue to be honest. Sounds like you have enough battles with him. Unless he's going to be taking him on long journeys or on the motorway, I don't think it's worth fighting. He's adequately strapped in, even though it could certainly be better.