how big is your house & how many live there?

gingin_2

If you have the money, then why are you letting your parents spend £100k on creating accomodation for you?

freebiequennie

we have a 4 bed 3 storey house (only way we could afford a 4 bed as semi would have been too expensive)

2 of us live here husband and I with a baby due beg sept.

we have lived here 3 yrs almost brought as a muddy plot 4yrs ago. ground floor has a kitchen, living room/dining room and a downstairs loo, middle floor has 2 double bedrooms, a single bedroom and bathroom, top floor has master bedroom, dressing room and en-suite.

This was our first buy for us and was at very very top end of our budget, we had rented a 3 bed semi for 3yrs prior and 1 bed flat for 4yrs and a 2 bed flat for 2yrs so had a good idea of what we wanted.

mistrihelen

I couldn't bear to live so close to my parents, or to be that beholden to them - but it does of course depend on how well you get on with them. If there's not much difference to you in buying your own place or moving on to their land, I'd choose my own place.

Personally, I probably wouldn't stretch finances to buy a four-bed place before having any kids. It's all well and good wanting four - and no doubt you will be fine - but what if you found yourself unable to have any? With three empty rooms waiting to become nurseries? I don't mean to be miserable, only to point out as others have said that you can't always plan such things exactly.

blushingbride_3

gingin wrote: »

If you have the money, then why are you letting your parents spend £100k on creating accomodation for you?

because we'd like to be near them & because they wont sell the barn as they dont want to split up the plot.
We wont be living off them for free, i'll be doing the housework as mum has health problems.
also for what we get with them we couldnt afford yet, i.e. nice setting, gardens etc

We'll be letting out our house so this will also help us in the future as whilst living with them we'll be saving up more (hopefully)

blushingbride_3

ovbiously i understand plans change but even if we dont have our own we will try to adopt/ foster children.

Chinkle

Louise has reiterated (all be in more succintly) exactly what I was trying to say. Would you want to be rattling around in a 5 bed house for many years if you had fertility issues and struggled to have just one of those four children you plan?

blushingbride_3

actually i'd still like space even if i didnt have children as i have nieces & nephews who'd come & stay etc

I know things dont always go to plan

blushingbride_3

i wasnt really up for a debate of what if i dont have kids etc, i know thats a possibility

the point is i dont want to do all the work & find it hard which is why i have asked others opinions on how they cope in whatever size house they have

Treacly

Two of us in a five bed. We like 'rattling around'!

polegirl23

We have a 3 bed and at the moment it's just the two of us. We're planning on two children but will have to move somewhere bigger after the first one as I don't want to give up my dressing room haha!!