how much?

sneezyboots

myself and OH have been invited to the evening part of a wedding in a couple of months. Instead of a gift list they have set up a honeymoon donation thing with thomas cook. 2 questions- firstly, will the bride and groom know how much everyone has donated? secondly, how much would you donate? or expect to be donated? roughly obviously.

To make it slightly more complicated, they couple will also be invited to our wedding in the summer (evening only again) so we don't want to give too little and seem tight but don't want to give too much that they feel obliged to give the same value back in the summer.

what would be considered 'the norm'?

if it helps to know how we know the couple the groom is OHs cousin but he barely knows him and I worked with the bride a little a while back.

Dave101t

the norm is wedding gifts, so what vaue would you buy for them a gift, then simply give them that much money.

Sammy85_2

Give them whatever you are comfortable with and can afford.

sneezyboots

i appreciate the responses but can someone give me some figures. I have never been to a wedding as an adult so actually have no idea. If there was a gift list it would be fine. plus people think we have money because we actually do in the bank but we are saving for our house deposit so we can move out of rented so in reality we are actually saving every penny at the mo. Would £20 sound ok? it is only the evening after all?

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

It depends how close you are too them? For close friends and family I have given from £40-£70. For friends who im not very close with £20.. does that help? x

bigmomma051204

I would give £25 at most to be honest! But thats probably cos my h2b has about a million cousins (according to his family, he has walked past many in the street and not recognised them lol..!!) and we'd be broke if we gave £50 to each one that got married etc lol!!!

So yeah, £20 sounds fine!

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

Just re -read it - as you dont know them that well and are not close - id have no issues with giving £20! Thats v. generous anyway - I know id be chuffed with that xx

Dizzie77

yes - they will be grateful for any amount, I'm sure - you don't invite people to your wedding based on what they will give you anyway!!!

£20 and the pleasure of your company should be just fine.

If it was closer family/friends, I would say more - but then you would know them better anyway and know what they were expecting..!!

wanttogetwed

I would say about £20-£25. My aunties/uncles roughly give about £50 when one of get married and they are close family - so I would say £20 is ample.

anderson8

yeah i think £20 seems about right!
im pretty sure they would be delighted that you were there and not expecting gifts!

im having the same thing at my wedding, if people want to give a gift then donations towards our honeymoon would be great!

sneezyboots

thanks for all the replies. it sounds like the £20 would be a good idea. your help is much appreciated