New job - how long to settle in?

Eton_Rifle

I'd give it at least six months.

CBR

I have just recently found myself in a similar situation. Employed for four hours per day with a small company. Two hours in the office and two hours on the shop floor, packing.

Having had demanding positions in the past, the office side of things was so boring that I am unable to put it into words but the two hours packing was a pleasure and I loved the pace and enjoyed the company of the production staff.

Perhaps on returning to work after 15 years this just isnt the job for yourself, which happens, so try to put the boredom aside and concentrate on planning your future career, which will obviously not involve call centre work.

Good luck.

Samanthamum

Thanks all. Feeling a little better today. It is not just the job, but I am also getting zero help around the house from DH and teen who expect me to carry on as if I was still at home full time. I only work 11-3 so DH expects me to do everything around the house, but finding it a bit hard work. Decided yesterday after talking to a few of the ladies at work that the house will have to slip a little until I find my feet as I am not superwoman!

Errata

Sounds like you're on the learning curve of discovering you can't do it all and you can't have it all. It happens ot most of us.
One way to sort out the house is to sit down with your teen and OH, discuss what needs to be done and who is going to do it, then it's clear in everyone's mind and there will be no need for you to stand in the kitchen banging pans around because you're lumbered with everything and because you haven't been able to calmly and clearly explain what's what and who does what and when.
Your teen and your OH will benefit from the money that you earn, and they have to show their appriciation by shouldering some of the houswork load to enable you to continue to earn money for them.

yellowduck_2

Sounds like you have a lot to adjust to and at first it will make you tired. I think new jobs can be exahausting at first as it's not just the work to get used to, it's the travelling, new people, new routine and then if you are not getting support at home it can make the adjustment harder. I would suggest sticking the job out for six months, three to get used to it and then the next three for looking for something better paid and more interesting. Agree that a family "summit" to share out the house stuff will help. Good luck, things will move forward for you and this time next year I am sure life will have improved a lot. Take care

Samanthamum

Thanks for the summit idea. Not really an option as DH feels I should do all the housework/cooking as I only work part time. Been asked to do overtime a few times as well and I can't due to having to have "tea on the table" It is kind of all getting to me a bit to be honest. At least I have realized it is not the job as such and it is giving me a bit of independance which I really need.

doodlesmum

Hi,

It must be shock to system to go out to work after being at home for 15yrs.It might only be part time but it still work and doing it all at home to is going to make you tired.I work part time and have teenager and two pre school and i was doing everything in the end i put my foot down and it worked :rotfl:

Can you try by trying to get your DH and teen invovled even if it was just preparing the tea you aren"t superwoman you are going to get really tired perhaps you need to gently point out that if you dont get any help you will get that fed up and tired that it might get too much and you will end up finishing job just might stop DH and teenager stop and think

Doodlesmum.

Errata

Samanthamum wrote: »

Thanks for the summit idea. Not really an option as DH feels I should do all the housework/cooking as I only work part time. Been asked to do overtime a few times as well and I can't due to having to have "tea on the table" It is kind of all getting to me a bit to be honest. At least I have realized it is not the job as such and it is giving me a bit of independance which I really need.

OK - but they do need to do some jobs and pull their weight. It's difficult if your OH is the kind of bloke who prefers his women 'pregnant, barefoot and in the kitchen' but it can be achieved if you simply put your foot down. That might be a bit of a novelty for him and you but other families manage to share out house jobs fairly. If he simply won't agree, then organise the house to suit you and not them. You're entitled to your independance and don't deserve to be treated as a household skivvy and doormat.

Fire_Fox

Samanthamum wrote: »

Thanks for the summit idea. Not really an option as DH feels I should do all the housework/cooking as I only work part time. Been asked to do overtime a few times as well and I can't due to having to have "tea on the table" It is kind of all getting to me a bit to be honest. At least I have realized it is not the job as such and it is giving me a bit of independance which I really need.

What exactly is he going to do if you do the overtime and don't have tea on the table? Have you considered buying a slow cooker? I can throw a meal together in literally five minutes and then leave to cook for four to six hours. Can make soups, stews, curries, bolognese, chilli con carne etc. :cool: Some people do fry off onions and meat but many don't and there is little difference.

paulwf

I guess this is more for the Old Style board on this forum but many people manage to work full time and still prepare dinner...it just takes a bit more planning. For example prepare a pasta sauce in advance so you DH just has to boil the pasta and mix in the sauce. Even a teenager can manage that

Hopefully what you will find is that after a month or so you will be able to "zone out" which is where once you can do the job without having to think about it you can just mentally switch off and just get through the shift without having to think about it.

To be honest as you are only doing 4 hours unless you are having an appalling work environment I think you should just put up with it until you can find something better. If you were doing 40 hours a week then my advice would be different, but for 4 hours a day you hardly get there before you will be going again so you should be able to stick it out. Trust me it will seem so much better once you have been there a month or two...good luck with it.