Non Compliance with Contact Order

maggied_2

Thanks lovely people, believe me the support is appreciated more than you think!

C xxx

daska

The thing the court looks for over and above anything else is for what it considers is in the best interests of the child. So yes, stick to your guns about contact but make sure you can be seen to be going that extra mile (or several hundred) to make it happen.

maggied_2

Daksa you're so right - good advice I know - it feels a bit difficult in the current onslaught. We'll see what the next few weeks bring. More sh!te I imagine!

RMatt_2

I know what you're going through maggied. My bf has similar probs with his ex, which now affect our relationship.

My b/f took his co with him when trying to pick his daughter up one day, and his ex just laughed in his face and told him to take his piece of paper elsewhere.

Experience has told me courts dont care if mother with care doesn't stick to contact order.

Hope things go ok for you though.

Blonde_Bint

RMatt wrote: »

I know what you're going through maggied. My bf has similar probs with his ex, which now affect our relationship.

My b/f took his co with him when trying to pick his daughter up one day, and his ex just laughed in his face and told him to take his piece of paper elsewhere.

Experience has told me courts dont care if mother with care doesn't stick to contact order.

Hope things go ok for you though.

I hear what your saying RMatt and I too (NRPP) have been laughed at by our pwc over our stupid papers which she doesnt care about. But they can only laugh at you so much what you've got to do is each time pwc does it contact the court your solicitor whoever you have to, make sure the relevant party knows that pwc has basically told you to shove it and your CO in the end she'll end up back in court having your proof shoved down HER throat, I guarantee it, though its not a fast process the courts dont like their orders being laughed at. Even our pwc only did it the once though dont know if the Judge taking legal aid away from her was the cause of that or not:D

Kimitatsu

Agree with all of the above Maggie -do everything by the book, keep a diary (very important to record what little one thinks of it all as well!!!) and keep reiterating that you are working in the best interests of the child so that she has a set routine and can see both parents.

Then when she doesnt comply - and there will be a day when she wont then straight back to court no messing, no second chances because breaking arrangements is NOT in the best interests of the child. The court has to uphold the childs right to be able to see both parents, and judges dont like contact orders being broken for no good reason.

Our judge completely roasted the ex for taking the kids away for a holiday that was allocated time to us - in fact he pointed out that next time he would have an arrest warrant put out for kidnap :rotfl:Made my day that one!

Grit your teeth girl, be seen to be fantastically reasonable and smile sweetly - it does work in the end!!!