wife in debt

woody99

Thanks again for the replies they are really helping.

With the job situation she doesnt work for a small firm it is quite large. She did ask permission to leave to a woman she thought was in charge as the manager wasnt there. Then her manager rang up in the evening balling and shouting. He is ex military and still thinks he is in the forces and treats his staff so.

With the debt my wife is going to ring up consumer debt helpline tomorrow and start the journey to get debt free the only trouble is i work very long shifts 7 to 7 so i cant be there to support during the day because if i take time off i will be disiplined myself.
Thanks woody

MCBIRNIE25

Oh, in that case, she hasn't got a lot to worry about. Got a union rep there? If so go see them. If not, let me know and we can write to her manager and request the info we need, 9 times out of 10 they back off then

wigginsmum

Hope it all works out for you, woody.

If your wife was unsure who was deputising in the manager's absence, then I think she behaved responsibly by talking to the obvious guessed next in command; she didn't just walk out the door. It's really the manager's issue for ineffective delegation.

susie76

Hey woody99, try not to dwell on what is done, i.e the building up of debt and the confrontation at work, and focus on what can be done to sort it out. I don't know an enormous amount about employment rights, but it doesn't sound like her boss has a massive case for sacking her (although he sounds horrible). You are ofering her support, which is great, and what she will need. Getting into debt is frighteningly easy, but can still make you feel isolated and ashamed, and your wife is definitely not the first to keep it from a partner. 8k is, sadly, not a lot in debt terms these days, and she may still be in a credit worthy situation where she can trasfer her debts to one low rate loan, which would cut her repayments without damaging her credit rating (as long as those credit card accounts are closed to avoid temptation), if thats not possible, cccs will give her lots of advice. Point her in the direction of this forum so she can see that she is not alone, it helps loads. Most of all, don't worry too much, it really isn't the end of the world, and one day you will look back and laugh (no, really). See the positives, the level of honesty this kind of thing opens up will bring you closer. Hope it all works out.

Debt_Free_Chick

woody99 wrote:

Thanks for all the replies so far i have told my wife i love her so much in the last 48 hours. I wish i hadnt gone to her work but it is done now. And we are going to fight the work issue together. Anyone know the number for the employment law helpline?

You need ACAS on 08457 47 47 47

If this absence is an isolated incident, I am 99.99% certain she cannot be sacked on the spot for it. Especially as there are mitigating circumstances i.e. she was distressed and attempted to get permission and, as far as she was concerned, she got it.

I'm not even convinced it's sufficient to have her suspended, but call ACAS as soon as you can.

I suspect her boss is a bit of a hot-head and might relent once he's calmed down. Although some stubborn people never back out of a decision "out of principle".

To prepare for a call with ACAS, she should dig out details of her employment contract including any staff handbook and the description of any disciplinary & grievance procedures. You may find that HE is in trouble - my guess is that there is a company procedure which means that you cannot be suspended on the spot and there would usually have to be a disciplinary meeting to establish the facts first.

I hope (and am reasonably confident) that her work position is not as bad as it seems. I would be less confident if this is the latest in a long line of similar unauthorised absences or if she has already been through the disciplinary procedure because of past absence.

HTH