Nobody seems excited!

fwan_bear

Hi ladies just thought I would introduce myself. I am Fran, and I am getting married in May 2013.

I know it's a long while away but I feel like nobody is excited or even bothered like me!
I really want to go wedding dress shopping, just to look! My own mother isn't bothered!
I just want to get going with my plans as we chose it to be in 2013 so we could save enough money and buy things at our own pace!
My fiance doesn't seem bothered either! He says I can plan everything. We are going to a wedding fayre tomorrow but that is the first thing "Weddingy" that we will do. xx

Snippa

Congratulations!

It is a long way off though. To be honest, I think I'd struggle being motivated to start looking for wedding dresses, venues or anything else at this stage either, for somoene else, because it's so far in the future. How do you know the chosen venue will still even be there, the dress will still fit, the bridal shop still be there?

My sister has just done the opposite to me - announced a wedding with about 3 months notice :eek:

That's too far the other way, and is almost more stressful than fun to do all the weddingy things. I reckon about a year ahead is a great time to start really planning. So I wouldn't worry too much if people don't seem excited. I'm sure they're delighted for you, and will be as excited as you when the wedding is getting closer. It's just very distant right now.

Mme.Hibou

It's exciting for you because you're newly engaged - I was too, we got engaged and married (and also gave birth to our baby) within 12 months, people were happy for us but they also had their own lives to lead.
I live over 200 miles from all my family, so there was nobody to chat generally with and nobody seemed interested in dress shopping.

3 years is a long time away, buy a folder/notebook/mood board and write/cut things out of any ideas you may have. Seasons change, so do fashions, just get a general idea of what you want, who you want to be there (although this could change dramatically in 3 years)

This board is great for inspiration and there are plenty of brides and grooms who can help you save some money and others *cough-frannyann-cough* may even help you finding things you never even knew you needed!!

It's easy for weddings to take over ones life (and it's not very becoming) I say enjoy being engaged, and don't be too disappointed when people don't seem as excited as you're feeling.

jaycat62

Congratulations Fran, I know exactly how you are feeling. My partner and I are having our civil partnership this June, and no one seems excited like us!!

I have no family and even her mother doesn't seem te slightest bit interested, although she's the only family around. She's not asking how things are going, bizarre really, oh well. We're excited so that's the main thing.

Start looking at all the things you want to happen at your wedding and also your honeymoon. Places to go, things to see. Are you going abroad or staying in the UK, are you going on activities etc... Have fun planning!!

Congratulations again : )

Stephb1986_2

Congratulations Fran I know how you feel I'm only getting married in 2014 so even longer than you love!

Still I'm buying the monthly bridal magazines and searching the pages for something I like then folding the page over so I can have a look nearer the time Maybe do that perfect wedding magazine is a good one they have real weddings in there too which might give you some ideas And there is also wedding ideas which is quite good the bigger ones are mainly adverts for stuff you can't afford so the smaller wedding magazines I've found are better.

Have you google searched venues in your area or the area you want to get married in? Perhaps request a few brouchures like I have we even went and viewed one venue as they didn't do a brouchure I liked the venue but didn't like the guy who showed us around he was a bit stuck up and you had to have everything their way or no way I think you might find that with alot of places though.

I know it seems dead important to you and not so important to other people but I'm sure nearer the time they will get excited. Have you set a date? Maybe look at save the date cards?

There is plenty to look at now to make you think yeah I like that and nearer the time you might not like it as much as you did in the first place.

I know there is a big wedding farye next weekend at the NEC in Birmingham I was going to get tickets but couldn't be bothered to travel all that way so hopefully there will be a few in Manchester soon.

Steph xx

p.s you can start watching Bridezilla, don't tell the bride ect too

lilac_lady

If everyone gets excited just now, they'll be fed up by the time your wedding comes around. Enjoy doing your own research for a while and gradually get others involved.

Saint_Chris

Congratulations Fran and welcome to the forum

Stick around and you will get loads of good advice from the girls n boys on the forum

superfran_uk

Not another one! Seriously, us Frans are taking over this board...

As has been said, this is very exciting for you but it is your big day and not theirs... and it is a long way off. I am sure as you get nearer the time and start to book things it'll all become real and your mother will become the MOB from hell like they all do

I wouldn't start looking for a dress just yet- not only can your shape change dramatically in three years but also fashions and tastes - you might swear you love something now but in three years you might look back and go 'what was i THINKING!?'. Also the shops tend to ask when the wedding is, if they think you're wasting their time they might be reluctant to make you an appointment. Hold off for a year and a half at least.

frannyann

Hello Fran!! (yet another one :rotfl:)

We will all be excited with you

TugaGirl

Hi there,

I know exactly how you feel. We got engaged on Xmas day 2008 and soon decided on getting married on the 25th of June 2010.

No one was excited about it apart from me. Honestly, I had arguments with my mum and sisters because I felt that they didn't care.
And I just stuck with making plans on my own. Use the internet, look and plan as much as you want, write things down, be excited! Trust me, time will fly by and soon it will be less than 4 months to go, and you will be wishing people would stop calling you about the wedding!

You can't expect others to be excited about it so far out... just give them time and dont be offended. They'll come around

Just enjoy the time whilst you have make all the decisions in your head and you have control over everything, that won't last!

Good luck

fwan_bear

well ladies, my other half has set a date and says take off a year so we are now getting married on the 14th april 2012!!


Now can I plan,,,please!!!????