No kids @ wedding - poem/rhyme?

passion_pit

At our wedding we just want the children of the bridal party there (my two kids,his niece and nethews(who have roles)and my matron-of honours daughter).We have only put the names of the people invited on the invites, but I want to put something on our website , but Im not sure how to word it

mrsW2b

Ooh thanks for that info - I think I will include someting along the lines of - Much as we love your little cherubs, we request that you have a day off and let your hair down......

Hmm, can't think how to phrase it but I would like to mention in some manner or form, that we are not children-haters but just prefer to have a child-free ceremony and meal........

talulahbeige_2

mrsW2b wrote: »

Hmm, can't think how to phrase it but I would like to mention in some manner or form, that we are not children-haters but just prefer to have a child-free ceremony and meal........

I dont know how many children there would be at your weddign but how about something along the lines of "the sheer number of children we would have at the wedding makes it impossible to invite them"

mrsW2b

dizziblonde wrote: »

Just put a line about "unfortunately owing to numbers/nature of the venue/whatever - we regret we are unable to invite children" or similar. Those who are going to take offence will take offence and go through the full repertoire of emotional blackmail/insults/armtwisting whatever you do unfortunately because apparently your wishes for a function you're paying for are completely overridden by the wrath of someone who wants to bring the centre of the entire universe along regardless.

I wish I'd stated on mine specifically and explicitly (and be damned with the political fallout to be honest - rather than saying it personally, and addressing invites to the adults only) since I've got a family member who's completely ridden roughshod over my wishes and will be bringing her baby - and it's caused me so much upset and distress that I'm actually now dreading my wedding day and have been in floods of tears about it (which is pretty sad considering I've got 3 weeks to go and am now looking at my own effing wedding as a day to be endured rather than something special). People who know me know my reasons for feeling this strongly about it (connected with very very very painful feelings from my own infertility) and before anyone goes down the route of accusing me of being a rabid childhater - that's why I wanted it the way I did, but this idiot "mother" who thinks the world owes her a living has destroyed our special day completely. Speak up, phrase it politely but firmly - you'll inevitably have to ride out a hellstorm (there are people on here who'll make you feel like some kind of Hitler-esque monster and not listen to the reason behind your wishes) - but it's better than ending up feeling like I do at the moment.

I'm more excited about getting a new dishwasher than my own wedding because of parents riding roughshod over the wishes of others right now.

Please don't be dreading your wedding. Try to get your point to your family member accross again, it is YOUR wedding.
I can totally understand how you feel as my best friend was in the same position and tried for 7 years for children but to no avail, and even though she's a SCBU nurse, it was painful for her to be around new mothers.
If its going to play on your mind and upset your day, i would even go the extent of univiting her if she insists on bringing the child.
My new dishwasher came a very close 2nd in my excitement levels too BTW - they are revolutionery!

hayleythedaisy

I can totally understand not wanting to invite children, I think they are cute in the evening when they are playing with balloons on the dancefloor but a nightmare when they bawl all through the ceremony, especially as the parents who think their children are entitled to come are the sort that would just sit there, rather than take them outside.
Don't get me wrong, I am not a child hater, we're having children at ours but thats because there will only be 3 and the parents are the kind who would be mortified if their child ruined the day.
Speak up, don't do a cheesy poem, but politely and firmly state that children are not invited. You could even do this on a seperate note to the people who have children. Worded to the effect of,
Hello, We are delighted at the thought of sharing our special day with you, and we'd like it if you could truely relax and enjoy it, and as such we would respectfully request that only guests over 18 attend (the ceremony and reception). We'd like to thank you in advance for your understanding.
Look forward to seeing you there.
The Bride and Groom.
(up to you if you wanted to invite them to the evening do, although I can't see many people getting a sitter for the day then picking the children up for the evening - it just might mean those without a sitter say the whole family will attend the evening instead.)
HTH, and just remember it's your day!!!

chops22

dizziblonde wrote: »

Just put a line about "unfortunately owing to numbers/nature of the venue/whatever - we regret we are unable to invite children" or similar. Those who are going to take offence will take offence and go through the full repertoire of emotional blackmail/insults/armtwisting whatever you do unfortunately because apparently your wishes for a function you're paying for are completely overridden by the wrath of someone who wants to bring the centre of the entire universe along regardless.

I wish I'd stated on mine specifically and explicitly (and be damned with the political fallout to be honest - rather than saying it personally, and addressing invites to the adults only) since I've got a family member who's completely ridden roughshod over my wishes and will be bringing her baby - and it's caused me so much upset and distress that I'm actually now dreading my wedding day and have been in floods of tears about it (which is pretty sad considering I've got 3 weeks to go and am now looking at my own effing wedding as a day to be endured rather than something special). People who know me know my reasons for feeling this strongly about it (connected with very very very painful feelings from my own infertility) and before anyone goes down the route of accusing me of being a rabid childhater - that's why I wanted it the way I did, but this idiot "mother" who thinks the world owes her a living has destroyed our special day completely. Speak up, phrase it politely but firmly - you'll inevitably have to ride out a hellstorm (there are people on here who'll make you feel like some kind of Hitler-esque monster and not listen to the reason behind your wishes) - but it's better than ending up feeling like I do at the moment.

I'm more excited about getting a new dishwasher than my own wedding because of parents riding roughshod over the wishes of others right now.

Say something now...don't let it ruin your day,

I have two kids, love them to bits and last year I went to 5 weddings....kids were only invited to one!!

It was not a problem at all for me, infact I got to have 4 child free weekends away!!

Your wedding...your call!! Knickers to the dreaded cousin, let her do as she pleases at HER own wedding!

3under3

dizziblonde wrote: »

Just put a line about "unfortunately owing to numbers/nature of the venue/whatever - we regret we are unable to invite children" or similar. Those who are going to take offence will take offence and go through the full repertoire of emotional blackmail/insults/armtwisting whatever you do unfortunately because apparently your wishes for a function you're paying for are completely overridden by the wrath of someone who wants to bring the centre of the entire universe along regardless.

I wish I'd stated on mine specifically and explicitly (and be damned with the political fallout to be honest - rather than saying it personally, and addressing invites to the adults only) since I've got a family member who's completely ridden roughshod over my wishes and will be bringing her baby - and it's caused me so much upset and distress that I'm actually now dreading my wedding day and have been in floods of tears about it (which is pretty sad considering I've got 3 weeks to go and am now looking at my own effing wedding as a day to be endured rather than something special). People who know me know my reasons for feeling this strongly about it (connected with very very very painful feelings from my own infertility) and before anyone goes down the route of accusing me of being a rabid childhater - that's why I wanted it the way I did, but this idiot "mother" who thinks the world owes her a living has destroyed our special day completely. Speak up, phrase it politely but firmly - you'll inevitably have to ride out a hellstorm (there are people on here who'll make you feel like some kind of Hitler-esque monster and not listen to the reason behind your wishes) - but it's better than ending up feeling like I do at the moment.

I'm more excited about getting a new dishwasher than my own wedding because of parents riding roughshod over the wishes of others right now.

Dizziblonde - you have to say something as you cannot allow this to ruin your wedding. It's YOUR wedding!! I'm speaking as a mum of 3 who sometimes has to miss/cut short weddings and parties due to the no kids requests. This women must either come without her child or if this is not possible then she must stay away...

Kittendreich

We just put a wee note in chrsitmas cards to let people know the date (thought that was more MSE than specific 'save the date' thing!) and added for those it was appropriate "...so I hope this gives you enough time to arrange a babysitter".

I then named the invites to parents only and only one person has come back to me to ask if their child can come (and it does clash with their child's birthday which is fair enough...although I have stuck to my guns and they have declined to attend).

We will wait and see if any turn up on the day! (only 6 weeks to go!!!)