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Are you getting LHA? if not then would putting the money you're spending in rent towards running the house and then renting out a couple of rooms be an option? You've got 3 spare ones, yes?
Sorry to hear it's all gone pear-shaped again. Might this be another question for your legal-eagle?
I don't get LHA as we're staying in a flat I was left by my Grandparents so no mortgage/rent to pay.
Not sure about sharing the house with a lodger(s). Certainly could easily rent out the flat I know, but not sure about actually sharing living space.
Legal-eagle is on holiday. Can't wait til back as I'm sure he waited til LE was away to kick off again.
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Loopy_Girl wrote: »Fair comment....maybe something for her to think about...I dunno how comfy I would be with a lodger with 2 girls and 5 months pregnant but you never know!!:)
Depends who the lodger is I guess, maybe a friend or relative....
It sounds like you have alot of support tho, especially from the PIL, which is great. I cant imagine what they must think of the whole situation!
"The paternity thing has absolutely floored me. I can't believe he even suggested it tbh. It's completely out of character for him, can't believe one person could have changed him so much." What can I say, some "people" are so easily led...Be who you are, say what you feel, those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind.They say that talking to yourself is a sign of mental illness. So I talk to the cats instead.0 -
missmontana wrote: »Depends who the lodger is I guess, maybe a friend or relative....
It sounds like you have alot of support tho, especially from the PIL, which is great. I cant imagine what they must think of the whole situation!
"The paternity thing has absolutely floored me. I can't believe he even suggested it tbh. It's completely out of character for him, can't believe one person could have changed him so much." What can I say, some "people" are so easily led...
I don't really have anyone I could have as a lodger tbh. I have no family other than 1 cousin who is married and has a home of her own and "friends" have shown their true colours recently with this whole saga and are in short supply.
I've got an old tenant who rented the flat for 2 years who is looking for somewhere come March end which is why I'm even considering moving again (either to the house or a rented place).
PIL are horrified. MIL is heartbroken he's basically abandoned his girls. FIL is completely disgusted with him. His Dad is very much the generation where the husband/father was very much the "man of the house" so seeing his son leave me and the girls short has horrified him. Luckily they still say I'm the daughter they never had and are wonderful too me. I try not to be overly reliant on it as I'm aware that there may come a time where they reconcile with him and as much as I'm like a daughter he is their son.
He never used to be easily led. He's changed so much, so so arrogant and so uncaring - it's bizarre, it's like the same shell, but the inner has changed so much.0 -
Sorry, I'd forgotten about the flat being left to you.
Can he afford to lose the house by not paying the mortgage? If he can't then I think you should move back to the house. Do you have an armed forces base near you, they are often on the look out for good lodgings for their senior officers (we found they pay well, only there 4/5 nights a week, scrupulously well behaved or else
) Alternatively my parents used to take in visiting opera singers and before that Foreign Office bods needing a few months back home before going on tour again. All these were brilliant lodgers, interesting and well behaved. Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants - Michael Pollan
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Sorry, I'd forgotten about the flat being left to you.
Can he afford to lose the house by not paying the mortgage? If he can't then I think you should move back to the house. Do you have an armed forces base near you, they are often on the look out for good lodgings for their senior officers (we found they pay well, only there 4/5 nights a week, scrupulously well behaved or else) Alternatively my parents used to take in visiting opera singers and before that Foreign Office bods needing a few months back home before going on tour again. All these were brilliant lodgers, interesting and well behaved.
Ooh my heart fluttered at the mention of senior officers... :rotfl:
But been there done that...
Sorry he's changed so much, it must be so disappointing for you all. Be who you are, say what you feel, those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind.They say that talking to yourself is a sign of mental illness. So I talk to the cats instead.0
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