Is anyone having a quick, quiet register office wedding?

Evansangel

faerie_girl wrote: »

Thanks for the reply evansangel. May I ask what your budget is?
I haven't seriously started looking at figures yet, just for the actual ceromony. We are both Atheists so although it would be lovely and special to marry in the local church my parents married in we wouldn't want a reglious cermony when we don't have faith.
I am wondering if we could do it for £800 or less. With the over time DP is putting himself through we will get an extra £300 p/m. He's also getting some bonus soon and I'll be getting a tiny bit of profit share in April. So it is something that we could save over a couple of months. We don't want to wait until next year. We would both like me to have the same surname as DP and LO, and to re-register LO to legitimise him(although i know it doesn't really matter in this day)

Roughly in my head i think it will come to £800-£1000

The church we're getting married in isn't a church of england, so its essentially a civil ceremony. And we're not religous at all.
Im only getting married there cause its pretty lol.

They dont force religion upon you there so it works for me

ceebeeby

DH and I married in a registry office 12+ years ago. I wore something out of my wardrobe, so did he. We invited 2 people to be our witness'. I didn't have bouquets etc. We stopped by the solicitors office on the way home and signed DD's change of name forms to new married name, then went to the fish and chip shop for everyone, went back to ours and sat on the carpet and yomped them!

Best day ever - cost about £100 including the ring!!!

Worked very well for us - i respect people who want the 'big thing' but can't get my head round the cost. There's so many more things to pay for once you are wed.

Happy_Girl_2

If you've got a Toby Carvery near you, you could have your meal there having amassed a few 2 courses for £5 vouchers, then spend the evening in the gardens if weather permits. Food for 15 of you would be £75! Very MSE!

Dave101t

i had a resistry wedding 6 months ago followed by a buffet meal in a posh(ish) bar for the reception.
easy peasy, no pressure and i feel, much better.

tabskitten

thistledome wrote: »

:T I love this lady! Best wishes to you both.

I didn't intend to reply to this thread because I'm not getting married unfortunately, but if I did I'd want it to be as cheap and stress-free as possible. Tabskitten's wedding would be perfect for me. (and beyond perfect without the out-laws!!).

OP, do what you want to do and if works out cheap you mustn't care what other people think about it - it's your day and your life. Some people would feel super-special if they spent thousands on their wedding day and some would feel miserable about that much expense on a wedding. Do what makes you happy.

oh without the out laws we can only dream!!!

The funny part is that when we got engaged this is what we wanted to do - but MIL bullied us into a big wedding in Aug when all her American family could come over.... then i realised all the promises of ''we'll help you organise it '' were just that .......promises.......

So i cancelled the whole thing- cancelled the church, everything!! LOL you should have seen her face when i TOLD her what WE were doing for OUR wedding!!!:rotfl:

JBD

I was married in a registry office[many moons ago] we just went back to our flat afterwards for a nice self catered buffet and drinks. We did have an evening do as well but we did that in a social club, again cheap and cheerfull.

kittiej

Well I don't think what you want is cheap at all.

Not so long ago people didn't have evening receptions anyway and most would cater in their own homes or village hall.

I'm getting married on Thursday at the register office, I've been to Tesco today and bought the large and medium tiers fruit cakes which cost about £22 for both, I've made some white roses to go on the top.

My wedding ring cost a tenner, OH bought his today for £12, 18ct white gold HGE(they're really good for the money and we can always change them at a later date).

I'm wearing a suit I already own, so is OH, and I don't really want flowers but if I did I would make my own bouquet.

Afterwards we're going to a local pub a bit like a Toby inn (a Crown Inn I think it is) and they do a really nice carvery for £3.59pp.

I don't think I'm missing out on anything because there isn't anything else I want. The most important thing is that I will be married to the man I want to spend my life with

fizzypotter

hi, I just booked register office today (whoop :j!!!) and the lady said something very nice, "some people want to be married, some people want a wedding".
think that just about sums it up, we are definately the first one !!
booked for 7 May this year, small ceremony, place only holds 7-10, photos on local moor with dogs (VERY important they are there too !!) then meal in local hotel after (just "out for a meal", not booking anything special like an "area").
Trying to keep it secret, so party will be around a month later, ceilidh in village hall (which is next door to us...fab).
so, register office - £158
party - ca £200
meal - ca £150-200
rings and clothes- ca £200

and, no I don't feel mean at all, its OUR day and this is what we want.

moggylover

fizzypotter wrote: »

hi, I just booked register office today (whoop :j!!!) and the lady said something very nice, "some people want to be married, some people want a wedding".
think that just about sums it up, we are definately the first one !!
booked for 7 May this year, small ceremony, place only holds 7-10, photos on local moor with dogs (VERY important they are there too !!) then meal in local hotel after (just "out for a meal", not booking anything special like an "area").
Trying to keep it secret, so party will be around a month later, ceilidh in village hall (which is next door to us...fab).
so, register office - £158
party - ca £200
meal - ca £150-200
rings and clothes- ca £200

and, no I don't feel mean at all, its OUR day and this is what we want.

That does indeed sum up the entire thing rather beautifully!

shellsuit

"some people want to be married, some people want a wedding"

Crikey, I may cancel our wedding then if we're not going to be married after it.