Any Grooms not having a stag do?

DKLS

I hadn't been overly fussed about having a stag do and decided not to bother, my best man has just phoned wanting to confirm details ???? I said its not happening and he has thrown a strop and threatened to pull out.

He threw a strop a few months back about his precious kids not being invited to the day, which he now understands.

But TBH at this stage I couldnt care less if he was there or not and wont be blackmailed into giving in, but wondered if I am a big misery for not wanting a stag do.

Edit: The majority of my friends are female, I have very few male friends if that has a bearing on it.

NEH

My husband didn't have one and i didn't have a hen do.....It just wasn't what we wanted and if we're honest it was our idea of a nightmare in a way. I know people were shocked and kept saying why not, this that and the other but at the end of the day it just didn't matter to us....

I did have a meal with my mum and sister but that was all.....

So no you're not a misery for not wanting one, each to their own i say....you wedding you should have a choice over what you do and if your mate is behaving like that i think i would question what kind of a mate is he... He shouldn't have had to have it explained to him why you didn't want kids, he should know you well enough to respect your decision...I found with our wedding especially with the little do for our friends afterwards really showed us who are friends were. It seems to bring out something in them.

mrdunkleysexy

Its your choice mate. If you feel you dont want a stag do your BM should respect your decision

A stag doo doesnt even need to be anything big. it could just be your close male friends go for a game of bowling and a meal if your not too fussed but at the end of the day the choice should be down to you and no one else

I am having a stag do. Two of my BM are organising it for me !!Really looking forward to it as one of my best mates is flying all the way over from Oz especially for the Wedding and Stag Do which means a lot to me.

aliasojo

DKLS wrote: »

.......I said its not happening and he has thrown a strop and threatened to pull out.

He threw a strop a few months back about his precious kids not being invited to the day........

Maybe it's time to tell him to grow some? He's acting like a spoilt kid and it's not even his day.

davetrousers

Why not combine Stag and Hen nights (and have a Hag night), and go out and have a decent meal?

Ultimately it's your day so it's up to you.

hayleythedaisy

aliasojo wrote: »

Maybe it's time to tell him to grow some? He's acting like a spoilt kid and it's not even his day.

That was kind of my thoughts. Maybe you'd be better off without him, what if he doesn't get a gold plated microphone for his speech? Is he going to throw himself on the floor in a hissy fit?

Toothfairy4

hayleythedaisy wrote: »

That was kind of my thoughts. Maybe you'd be better off without him, what if he doesn't get a gold plated microphone for his speech? Is he going to throw himself on the floor in a hissy fit?

:rotfl::rotfl: Seriously though, he is behaving like a child, I like the idea of a 'Hag' night if you don't really fancy seperate ones.

DKLS

aliasojo wrote: »

Maybe it's time to tell him to grow some? He's acting like a spoilt kid and it's not even his day.

Update: he isnt coming at all, he has thrown his toys out of the pram bigtime. Ah well that saves me £180 and my nephew will step in to dish out rings and sign the register :beer:

I have decided to go out with 5 of my female friends for dinner and drinks instead, very low key and no fuss.

NEH

DKLS wrote: »

Update: he isnt coming at all, he has thrown his toys out of the pram bigtime. Ah well that saves me £180 and my nephew will step in to dish out rings and sign the register :beer:

I have decided to go out with 5 of my female friends for dinner and drinks instead, very low key and no fuss.

We had problems like that, sometimes people just don't get it....well hopefully now you will have a nice night out without him always being a concern...

BeckyArch

Me and OH are having a HAG do during the day, we're taking all my mates and his mates for an activity day of outdoor laser questing and having sausage and chips for dinner... it will be much more fun that doing out and getting drunk and we can all be together!

hayleythedaisy

DKLS wrote: »

Update: he isnt coming at all, he has thrown his toys out of the pram bigtime. Ah well that saves me £180 and my nephew will step in to dish out rings and sign the register :beer:

I have decided to go out with 5 of my female friends for dinner and drinks instead, very low key and no fuss.

Nice work on saving the money! And good of your nephew to step in. Glad you've got things sorted now!
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