Just me and my old shoes from now on!

BEAT_THE_DEBT

Good luck.xx

CaroleM_3

Good luck Old Boots
x

Lemon_Tree

good luck, glad to see you back here

Choc-addict

Hi there,

Just read your diary and wanted to wish you lots of luck. You've been through a very tough and emotional ride of late which seems is still ongoing in your latest decision to sell up and move home - I can't imagine how hard this has been for you but you should be so pround of all that you have done of late.

Keep posting on your diary to stay motivated, the lovely people here are great and it's a good way to vent any frustrations.

Keep your chin up and remember why you are doing what you are doing, you'll get there soon enough

Take care xx

tootallulah

Hi, I've been wondering where you were, and hoping that you are OK. It sounds like it has been hard but you are doing REALLY WELL. Nothing is forever, sell up move in with your Dad and have a plan for what is next. Life is for living and you can do that whilst paying off debt. Keep posting and look after yourself.

little_h_2

I've just started reading your thread, I'm in a similar position for similar reasons. My debt has occurred mostly since my divorce but in truth I have been on a spend silly-repay debt-start spending again cycle for many years.

I'm so sorry to hear your relationship ended and yes it is so brutal when you realise your behaviour has to stop.

I read a great book called In the Red about another compulsive shopper and it was really enlightening. I would post you mine but I want to keep it forever so i know i never go back to my old ways. Maybe you can get the library to get it in for you?

Selling your house is drastic, I'm sure you've thought it through and if your relationship with your dad is good maybe this will give you some emotional support, it sounds like you really need it.

Good luck, well done on the ebaying and keep smiling they're free you know

xxx

Choc-addict

little_h wrote: »

I read a great book called In the Red about another compulsive shopper and it was really enlightening. I would post you mine but I want to keep it forever so i know i never go back to my old ways. Maybe you can get the library to get it in for you?

xxx

Interesting, may take a peep myself at this xx

Oldboots how you doing today? x

oldboots_2

Well, it's a Saturday night and here I am at my dad's (even he's gone out for dinner!) which probably tells you about how I've started this month. I have decided to sit down tonight and write a budget. So far I have just resorted to spending nothing, but I'm finding that whilst this is helping my financial life, I'm a woman in my early thirties, newly single and with no time to waste sitting in!

It's the first on the month today, and I feel that after I already sold everything I own, I now need to begin to find a new direction. I've been thinking about the reasons why I have been spending so much money in the past few months or actually years.

I think it really began when I started putting on weight. I refused for to buy clothes that were bigger, and so I continued to buy clothes that I knew wouldn't fit me straight off the rail but convinced myself that I would eventually stop getting bigger and slim back to my usual size. Things became worse when my partner was unfaithful. Whilst there are always two sides to everything, and i'm certainly not going to blame his inadequacies for the reason of my own, it didn't help my self esteem or body image. I vivdly remember in my latter months buying clothes that I could visualise myself in if I were only a size ten as I used to be instead of my size sixteen. I would convince myself that I would lose weight, he would realise what he had thrown away and everything would return to normal. In a way, I was living my life not even in the future, but in my own head. I could picuture how things should be and this was the only way to make them happen right now.

It all seems so stupid and even so boringly obvious now. I don't know what other peoples' reasons are for doing what they do as I've not ever been able to talk about it to anyone before or even now. Believe it or not, no one knows about my little secret. Not even my father who I have moved in with again. To the outside world, I have just decided to sell my house as I'm thinking of a change of direction, which to a certain extent, is true. It was just a little more self imposed than planned.

So, back to my new budget. I expect that this is something that eveybody gets the hang of a lot more quiclkly than I do and I am struggling with it. I have been quite lucky so far, my ex has decided to but my half of the mortgage, so that has meant I at least can stop paying that almost immeadiately aswell as my bills and now I can concentrate on my over fifty thousand of unsecured debt.

I'll leave I think on that note.

ps I just wanted to say a big thank you so far to all the support I've had so far from you. It means a lot and it's certainly been a comfort seeing everyone here making their way through this together. Thank you.

anonymoose_3

Hi Oldboots :hello:

Didn't want to read & run, wishing you all the luck in the world on your debt free journey xx

azkaban420

Hi oldboots,

I thought I'd left a message but can't find it, never mind, just wanted to say well done for facing up to your debts. Even though you might feel you haven't made much progress, you've actually made A LOT! The fact that your mindset has changed from hiding your debts to dealing with them is a massive step.

Congrats on getting the ebay bug, I too, have started to use it to get rid of posessions that are of little or no use to me - amazing what a buzz looking at those green 'selling figures' gives! I've been calling my husband throughout the day saying moronic things like 'ooh, someone's just bid 99p on my top'!!!

Do keep posting and do try to keep your chin up, we're all in similarish situations so are always here to lean on **subscribes**

Az