Wanting a low key wedding

Pee

You could go abroad and combine it with a holiday?

I think there are some lovely private venues like castles, a church if you want any mention of God - with a civil service there is none, this may or may not suit you.

To me it seems strange to have unknown witnesses and not want anyone to be there, but you have good reasons for preferring it that way - or not even any reasons and just prefer it that way!!! - and it could be hard if one family could be involved but not the other.

Just think about how anyone you won't be inviting will feel. It may not be something you need to take into account, but at least consider them and decide that it's unimportant to you for yourself.

charlea

i got married at Bristol RO we had a great photographer who charged a set fee i think around 70 to come to the RO and the reception and take photos and then we went to his studio a month later to pick the photos that we wanted this saved us a fortune

We had our reception in local pub that had really nice grounds our friends all have kids and so did we so we knew it had to be kid friendly location and kid friendly food
so we did a seperate buffet for the kids which consisted of icepools ice cream and junk food ect the pub was next to the local city farm really horrendous) but all the kids dissapeared in the farm for facepainting and to use the adventure playground and bouncy castle my sister did the food my friends boyfriend did the music my sister in law let us use her mercedes to get to the registry office

we then left for our honeymoon which was already booked before we decided to get married and ended up in KOS on a 18-30s holiday ( we were the oldest there:D i still laugh at that now 10 years on)

if you want lo key why not go abroad and get married and have a honeymoon at the same time you dont have to go to the other side of the world friend of ours got married in cyprus last year which was amazing

chou-chou wrote: »

First thing I would suggest is getting a list of all the venues licensed to perform wedding ceremonies in your area. Your local council website should have this somewhere - you'll be surprised at some of the places you can do it! Bear in mind if you do want to get married outside of a registry office it will cost a little bit more as the registrar will have to travel plus you've got the cost of the venue as well.

Don't rule out going somewhere else in the country. Some registry offices are lovely. I know that Bristol and Carmarthen RO's are both really pretty.

Also, time of year is important - some venues will be much cheaper in Jan/Feb and you do get a lot of lovely crisp clear days at that time of year. And if you do go for an 'out of season' date then don't be afraid to negotiate!

Threebabes

We had a small wedding, nearly 13 year ago now. We dont like a fuss. Including ourselves and our toddler we had 6 other guests. We drove ourselves to the registry office, then to a hotel which had small function rooms. We had the room with one large table which we sat at in private and had the meal. We took our own photos. We bought DH a new suit and I wore a plain non wedding dress. DH and I then spent the night in the hotel. It can be done really cheaply. I wish we had just grabbed 2 people off the street as witnesses and then gone for a meal with DH and our son, but never mind.

musicmam

When Hubby & I got married 11 years ago we had a registry office wedding with only immediate family from both sides and then went off to our favourite restaurant where everyone got to choose exactly what they wanted off the menu...no fuss. Then back to our house for a drink and cutting the cake.

It was just what we wanted.

(We had a party at a later date for everybody else)

Butterfly_Brain

When we got married 24 years ago we booked a local factory canteen/club had a pub do the bar for us a friend supplied the wedding car as a present another friend made the cake and another did the disco - all the family pitched in with the catering and we had a fantastic wedding day we stayed till the last knockings and everyone helped to clear up we went home to our house by taxi and found that it covered in decorations - Fantastic

LuceB84

We got married in Cyprus last September. We had the service at the local town hall then went to a local restaurant for a meal afterwards. There was only about 18 of us there and it was a perfect day, just how we wanted it. We then had another week of holiday to enjoy afterwards!

SUESMITH_2

ive had friends get married wihout telling anyone and i mean anyone, witneses were people passing by at the time - they then went to bettys for afternoon tea, went home and told their grown up kids

another friend got married with just both sets of parents there, and then had a private dining room in a hotel

gwhizz75

If it isn't about the money then I think I would recommend going abroad to do it (if that is something you would be interested in that is). I don't want a big wedding either, and I think that when (or if) the day comes, I will marry abroad with my parents, my brother and his wife, and my partner's parents as guests. Rather than spending a fortune on catering for loads of guests, we'll help pay for their flights/hotel. I actually wouldn't mind getting married with just the two of us there but I think my parents would be really disappointed.

charlea

just cos your going for low key it dosnt mean it has to be an every day wedding I noticed you mentiond about thinking outside the box for you wedding although some of these might seem strange they are all suitable for low key wedding but with a bit of difference

are you an animal lover
http://www.chesterzoo.org/Visit/Facilities.aspx

Get the wind in your hair and get married in a windmill
http://www.cleywindmill.co.uk/pdf/wedding-brochure.pdf

Get married in a lighthouse
http://www.weddingchaos.co.uk/wedding-locations/lighthouse-wedding.asp

Maybe your other half is a secret train collect
http://www.bluebell-railway.co.uk/bluebell/wedding.html

Did you ever go to Blackpool as a kid
Blackpool Tower It might not have the spender of the Eiffel Tower but it can have all the magic as you and your partner step out onto the Walk of Faith, where you can see wonderful views inland and over the Irish Sea
http://www.visitnorthwest.com/news/couples-can-now-get-married-at-blackpool-tower/

Get up high Hire your own private capsule and as you climb slowing into the sky ask your loved one to say I do.
http://www.londoneye.com/SpecialOccasions/


Enjoy a life on the ocean waves http://www.ssgreatbritain.org/IconicShipTurnsLoveBoat.aspx

Get married in scotland get married at loch lomond
http://scottishwedding.visitscotland.com/

http://www.weeweddings.co.uk/ gett married on a beach or on a fort

Go for a bit of history and romance
http://www.burnsheritagepark.com/function.htm
　
This is a good website as you can just narrow down what you want by location amount of guest and type of venue ect
http://www.ultimatevenue.com/


　
other places you can get married are tower bridge london zoo football clubs golf clubs barns just think outside the box

　

L68jb

We had a low-key wedding last March. The most expensive bit was the church but as I wanted to get married in my local church, this wasn't a problem. We invited our immediate family - parents, siblings and husband had his nieces and nephew. Wedding was in church on a Saturday and we hired a small room at a local hotel where we had a 3 course meal for the 14 of us. We did everything that we would have done had we had 100 guests and probably had a more memorable day! Asked family to bring cameras to take photos rather than a photographer and ended up with over 1000 pictures and videos!! Total cost was £2000 for everything - my dress, husband's suit, rings, church, 3 course meal, drinks, over night stay at hotel, flowers etc. We also had a party in the summer at home for extended family and friends where we made great use of our large garden and had food and drink for everyone without spending alot of money! Choosing to have a small wedding meant we just went to the vicar to find when his next available date was - we only had 7 weeks from booking the date until the wedding!