Going to make a claim through CSA, Advice pls

mandij30

Hi,

I just want some advice really, if anyone can help, I am a lone parent working pt 22 hrs pw, on minimum wage. after me and ex divorced I had care of both children, and got by on salary and tax credits alone, with no financial assistance from ex.
Now My son has decided to go live with him permanently, so I shall be left with only my daughter at home. Obviously I've contacted the relevent benefit agencies and now they have deducted what I was getting for my son.

So now with a shortfall of money coming in I have no choice but to ask for maintanence from Ex. I will be going through the CSA to set this up. he earns over £500 a week and can more then afford to contribute towards hes daughters upkeep.

Will it affect what he can pay me though considering he now has my son living with him ?? I did the online calculation, but it doesn't take into consideration he's mistress who he is living with and her 2 grown up daughters. Does CSA Take into account he's partners salary as well ? or do they just base it on hes salary alone.
All this is so confusing and I wish I could get by without any financial assistance from him, but now I have had a cut in benefits I have no choice as I'm not gonna be able to survive.

All help and advice is greatly appreciated
Thanks )

shell_542

All they will base it on is his salary and any tax credits the household receive. They will not take into account his partners income at all.

They will first give him a reduction for the children living with him ... so I assume just one, your son, as you said the partner's daughters are grown up. So he'll get a 15% reduction for your son living with him and then be expected to pay 15% to you ...

But bear in mind, he can then make a claim against you for your son! You will get a 15% reduction from your weekly income and child tax credits for your daughter living with you and will then pay him 15% in child support.

shell_542

How are things between the two of you? Could you perhaps sit down with each other, work out how much you would have to pay each other (and assuming he would have to pay you more than you pay him as he earns more) just have him pay you the difference between the two figures without the need of the CSA taking money from you to give to him?

If you don't have that kind of relationship, then obviously that wont be a possibility.

(Thats only assuming he may make a claim. If he's happy not to then you don't have to worry about all of that x)

mandij30

shell_542 wrote: »

How are things between the two of you? Could you perhaps sit down with each other, work out how much you would have to pay each other (and assuming he would have to pay you more than you pay him as he earns more) just have him pay you the difference between the two figures without the need of the CSA taking money from you to give to him?

If you don't have that kind of relationship, then obviously that wont be a possibility.

Our relationship has totally broken down, I no longer speak to him, he has brainwashed my son against me,( mind games) and I'm scared he'l do the same with my daughter. So for now I've stopped access, he is a very bad role model and I want to protect my daughter.

I am concerned that he may tit for tat and try and claim from me, but then he's salary a month far exceeds what I get from salary & tax credits.

I've told him I've cancelled my claim for my son with Child benefit & tax credits and that its now down to him to make a claim for them.

Its all terribly confusing

shell_542

Have a look on the CSA website at their calculator. Work out how much you would have to pay IF he contacts them to claim against you. At least you can try and factor that into your budgeting as a kind of "what if?" x

mandij30

Thank you Shell, I hope he isn't petty enough to go down that route, after all he's got it easy, hes living in her mortgage free home, with her salary going into the household as well and both grown up daughters working and contributing.

Where as I'm just here on my own with young daughter struggling to make ends meet.

System

mandij30 wrote: »

T I hope he isn't petty enough to go down that route,

You think that he will be petty when you think it is OK to prevent legitimate access to his daughter? pot, kettle

mandij30

!!!!!! wrote: »

You think that he will be petty when you think it is OK to prevent legitimate access to his daughter? pot, kettle

Excuse me but you don't know my circumstances, I don't want my daughter around someone who is a negative influence in her life.

I have given him enough access in the past, and he's blown it and caused her alot of anxiety and upset.

As a parent your mean't to protect them, thats exactly what I'm doing.

Who are you to Judge me for doing whats in the best interests of my daughter :mad:

missmontana

!!!!!! wrote: »

You think that he will be petty when you think it is OK to prevent legitimate access to his daughter? pot, kettle

I don't think comments like that really help.

Like Shell says, see what the outcome would be if he were to counter claim via the csa.

If you need to chat pm me, please disregard any unhelpful posts/comments. There are more people here that are willing to help than vice versa

System

No I don't know your circumstances. I fail to see how he can be petty for going for what he is entitled to but you aren't?

But at the moment I see a one sided rant about an ex. I wonder what he would write.


'My paranoid ex is so vindictive that she will not allow me access to my daughter'

There are 2 sides to every story.

mandij30

missmontana wrote: »

I don't think comments like that really help.

Like Shell says, see what the outcome would be if he were to counter claim via the csa.

If you need to chat pm me, please disregard any unhelpful posts/comments. There are more people here that are willing to help than vice versa

Thank you Miss, I'm having a hard time of it already with losing my son, and him not wanting to see me, after months of hes fathers brainwashing & turning him against me. I hope in time as he gets older he'l want to get in contact, he's a teenager and has hormones and puberty atm, so there is just no talking to him.

I just need to focus on bringing my daughter up in a loving and safe environment. And to the best of my ability.
If I could get by without a penny from him I would, but my outgoings far exceed my incomings, and why should my daughter have to go without basic things just so that I can keep a roof over her head.

Once again Ty Shell & Miss, At least there are genuine people in here that are supportive and advise well.