Is this poem to long, to much, or just plain cheek!

pretzelnut

The problem is my side of the family have always given cash, that way the married couple can do with it as they please.

DF's family are very odd, and we would end up with a totally useless although very nice silver cutlery canteen that will never get used, or a dinner service, an expensive one that the family members will buy additional pieces for throughout our marriage. Again this will never get used. We'd feel we would be stuck with it and it wouldnt be to our taste. We are very greatful and i can appreciate the thought of giving something that lasts a lifetime and will grow as we grow, but it just doesnt fit with us and our lives.

DF although he is younger then me by 5 years his parents are a generation older than mine. If that makes sense. Df's parents had him very late in their lives.

It is proving very hard to ''marry'' the 2 completely different sides of the family, our wedding day is gonna be great fun.

sarah_elton

I have to say, I really dislike poems as well. Personally, I think a nice, honest note explaining what you'd like if people want to give a gift is better.

We're asking for vouchers and I posted our text here:
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=29344357&postcount=61

However, if you want to stick with a poem I do think it's too long. Traditionally gift info wasn't included with invites. I was loathe to include it with ours but H2B pointed out that everyone does nowadays so it's become acceptable. I do think any gift info should be short and discreet. The other gubbins that goes in with the invite should have the most content. Agree with Birdie 85 that it should be at least half as short.

I think the story about how you got together gets told during the speeches.

Yellowbug

well i like it
maybe its a little long, but not so long that its no good, see if you can take a bit out of it, but if not dont worry about it, it reflects you and Im sure your guests will appreciate that


here is ours

The wedding has come, its here at last
what present shall I get? I hear you ask
a set of glasses, towels or a toaster,
vases, plates or even some coasters.
these things we already have in our nest
so if we may we'd like to suggest
a gift of money would be best.

We know reading this some may be offended
we hope your're not as this wasn't intended
but the life we have we hope you agree
means being honest with you is the best way to be.

So please don't think we are being funny,
If we say 'can we just have money'?


But in the end we didnt put it in the invites, instead I put it on our wedding website so its a bit less in your face
also instructed all family/wedding party that if they are asked what we want to explain really we would like money towards doing our drive

so far the message seems to have spread well

keza

hiya this is the one we are using. my sister emailed it to me!

'We are sending out this invitation,
in hope you will join our celebration,
but if a gift is your intention,
may we take this opportunity to mention,
we have already got a kettle and toaster,
crockery, dinner mats and matching coasters,
so rather than something we have already got,
we would appreciate money for our pot,
but most importantly we request,
that you come to our wedding as our guest'

pretzelnut

There is no point in me doing a wedding website, only my side of the family know what the internet is.

I spent far to much time on the net myself as it is.

I hate asking for cash, makes me feel like im asking my guests to pay for their meal, im tempted to leave it out and just ''spread'' the word about our honeymoon plans.

wanttogetwed

I think now a days most people give cash (or vouchers). As most people have kids and have lived together for years (8 years in my case). No one has asked what we would like as gifts but most have said to my mum and dad that they would be putting money in a card.

Idiophreak

Tad long and a couple of the rhymes are a bit clunky for my taste - I think wedding poems are better when they're in proper rhyming couplets. Sickly sweet, but that's what you want in a wedding poem

Personally I'd cut the bit about facebook and the stuff about your kids - that would knock it down to 5 blocks of 4 lines. Or I'd be tempted to take out the couple of lines about being a millionaire too - so it would be 4,4,2,4,4 - and I'd put the 2 lines about "most importantly" in bold, so people can get to the point right away. 18-20 lines is more than enough for this kinda thing...

rinroo

I'll proberbly get shot down for this but still,

I am not a fan at all of people asking for money as a wedding gift. We can't afford a honeymoon therefore we are not having one, nor are we going to ask our guests to contribute to it. We have been together 11 years nearly and have 2 children we have told our guests we dont want presents, I know we will still get them and I know most will be cash gifts but I'd rather have nothing than to ask for something.

I know that is MY own personal opinion but still, I feel if i was invited to a wedding and the bride and groom wanted money I'd rather a simple note explaining why would be sufficient, I just dont like the poems I think they try to cover the embarrasment felt by the B&G for asking for money.

Back to the subject, I think the poem is too long...5 or 6 lines would be enough, on the plus I think its good you have personalised it!

pretzelnut

Thank you all for your opinions, i think im just going to leave it out.

Im sat with my invitations in front of me and the poem just makes them look wrong.

Think im just going to focus on ''inviting'' guests.

Df has just rung me from work and told me that the only time he can get off work after our wedding is the week when its DD's 1st birthday, and there is noway on earth i will miss that.

rinroo

princesswoo wrote: »

Thank you all for your opinions, i think im just going to leave it out.

Im sat with my invitations in front of me and the poem just makes them look wrong.

Think im just going to focus on ''inviting'' guests.

Df has just rung me from work and told me that the only time he can get off work after our wedding is the week when its DD's 1st birthday, and there is noway on earth i will miss that.

I think thats a good plan!

As I said we can't immediatly afford a honeymoon, so my h2b say's we'll book something towards the end of the year and it gives us something to look forward too after the wedding hype is over!