Recent loss of step father and question about belongings

MrsAnnie

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Her attitude and conduct may well be highly insensitive, bullying and certain to put people's backs up. However, as I read it, you are not related to the person you describe as stepfather by either marriage or blood. In those circumstances, unless you are a beneficiary or some of your mother's valuable items are in the house, why is it actually any business of yours?

Is your Mother still alive and perhaps dependent upon the deceased? Off the top of my head, I can't see any other reason but financial involvement of some sort to explain why you are feeling so aggrieved that she has failed to consult you.

I mean no criticism - I'm genuinely puzzled.

First of all OP I am sorry for the loss of your stepfather.

But I have to agree with Paddy'smum.

Your stepfather was of no legal relationship to you. However the woman in question is his sister and he obviously felt that, in his opinion, she was worthy of being executor of his will.

I think if I was in the same position that I (as a nex of kin/executor) would remove certain items from my parents or siblings home for 'safekeeping' until a will was found/read so that they did not go missing and unaccounted for.

As an executor, she is in control of seeing that his estate is sorted according to his will/wishes.

Are you under the impression that the watches should be going to someone inparticular?

I think until the will is seen it is difficult to determine if anything has been done maliciously.

onamission_2

bravobeastie wrote: »

Hi, thanks for replying

Unfortunately SHE is the executer, we have no idea how to get a copy of the will but will perhaps know more when we are there next week.

She has been rather sneaky and underhand, very bossy and dominating so far. Its not that we are even interested in having the watches, we just need to know that she will be in the wrong to go over and take anything further from the house as she hasn't even consulted anyone.

Irish law is v. different to the UK. the only way I know to get a copy of the will is to contact the solicitor who was looking after your step fathers affairs. We had difficulities in our family as the original copy was missing and the solicitor hadn't got a copy. Unfortunately if this lady is named executor then she has a right to take stuff from the house for safekeeping.

bravobeastie

Thank you to all for your help. There was nothing financial to be gained from my query. More moral and sentimental I guess.

choille

Hope it works out bravobeastie & she has the grace to do the right thing & for you to get some momentoes.