Urgent help needed - tonight please

dina141080

i cannot accomodate my mum in my house as she cannot use stairs due to the cocktail of drugs she takes and all bedrooms are upstairs

new_home_owner_3

dina141080 wrote: »

building a granny flat onto my house to give her independant living with us as she is so lonely and unhappy on her own

Yeah and i suppose if you sell your house in the future you will give your brother the difference the granny flat will make to the price of your house, i doubt it very much, your just trying to be greedy. the sneeky way, i dont blame your brother.

If he said to you he wanted to sell your moms house, so he could have a granny flat and she could live with him what would you say then?

Pitlanepiglet

new_home_owner wrote: »

Yeah and i suppose if you sell your house in the future you will give your brother the difference the granny flat will make to the price of your house, i doubt it very much, your just trying to be greedy. the sneeky way, i dont blame your brother.

If he said to you he wanted to sell your moms house, so he could have a granny flat and she could live with him what would you say then?

Give it up, it's not relevant and to be fair to the OP you have absolutely no idea of their circumstances or their motives.

Climb down off your high horse before you fall and hurt yourself!

sunshune

new_home_owner wrote: »

Yeah and i suppose if you sell your house in the future you will give your brother the difference the granny flat will make to the price of your house, i doubt it very much, your just trying to be greedy. the sneeky way, i dont blame your brother.

If he said to you he wanted to sell your moms house, so he could have a granny flat and she could live with him what would you say then?

Wow you're a bit harsh, I don't believe the OP has commented on his entire situation so none of us know the full story. I do think your comments are uncalled for and unhelpful.

Just wanted to say good luck to the OP, I am not an expert in this at all but good on you for wanting to build an granny annexe for your mother. If I had the money I would do the same for my parents.

By the way, would your brother consider taking your mother in?

new_home_owner_3

Pitlanepiglet wrote: »

Give it up, it's not relevant and to be fair to the OP you have absolutely no idea of their circumstances or their motives.

Climb down off your high horse before you fall and hurt yourself!

Im only saying how i see it, if there sneaky enough to avoid there mom paying for care in a home, im sure they are the same with each other, if you dont like it dont read my posts..

are you the same person? giving a bit of support because to a new poster sock puppet.

dina141080

My mother had no relationship with my brother for decades and he only came on the scene when my dad died 6 years ago.

My brother would not offer to build a granny flat for my mum, as he is too selfish, it is me who will nurse and care for her until her dying day as I refuse to put her in a home.

My mother would never agree to live with my brother as they do not have a close enough relationship.

Jowo_2

new_home_owner wrote: »

... your just trying to be greedy. the sneeky way, i dont blame your brother.

There's no doubt that the mother's intention to deprive herself of capital to avoid future care costs have backfired, big time.

But while the son legally owns 50% of the property, he is not respecting his mother's wishes and in not letting the property to be sold to fund her next accommodation, he's also sabotaging her happiness and wishes there, too, which is quite disgusting.

Since the OP is an owner of the property, perhaps she could move in with her mother there as an interim solution.

Pitlanepiglet

new_home_owner wrote: »

are you the same person? giving a bit of support because to a new poster sock puppet.

Any chance of a translation?

I prefer to give decent advice rather than make assumptions about someone's morals and motives.

mikey72

Good for you, it's not an easy job looking after a parent, all the best.

new_home_owner_3

sunshune wrote: »

. If I had the money I would do the same for my parents.

By the way, would your brother consider taking your mother in?

yeah if you had the money, she asking her mother to sell her house to pay for a extension, i know people who have done this, but i think theres more to this than meets the eye.

only the other person will know. ive seen it from a personal point of view when my uncle tried to sell my nans house and move her in with them, he just wanted the money for himself and my dads sister. luckily my nan was sound in mind and put a stop to it.