Totally fed up with it all

funky_76

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swiss69

I'd start packing your bags.

He sounds like someone who doesnt hold the same "We are made for each other" view as you do.

Dont waste any more time

viktory

Sounds very much like he is exploring 'outside interests'. Demand some straightforward honest answers - if he doesn't care enough to discuss your feelings then perhaps you should consider that the relationship has run its course.

mrcow

Eeewww........don't have a baby with this guy. He sounds a complete creep.

nickyhutch

SOunds like he's back on the online dating to me.

Pollycat

funky_76 wrote: »

I'm coming here to rant before I completely lose it with DF!!
We have been together a few years, have split up a few times because he ga basically pushed me away as he 'doesn't know what he wants' the last time he won me back by proposing to me!! I said yes -this was October time. Anyway we met online and we really are made for each other, we don't argue, have a laugh etc.... One of the other times we split up was also to dowith the fact j found his profile on a dating site....photo and all! I looked as I had reason to with a photo in fb with the website name sprawled across it. Since Xmas DF has been in a weird mood, won't talk much, the affection has gone completely- no cuddles in bed, absolutley nothing, considering we are meant to be trying for a baby!! so obviously this has aroused my suspicions again, so I look onthis website, and I think I have found his profile with a couple of changes: star sign, 1yr older, he's cagey with his lap top, sits so I can't see it, if I get up to go to loo, he quickly gets rid of any page and just sits there with the desktop up, one word answers. All my friends told me not to go back, my parents were less than happy about the engagement to start with, but they have come round to it now, I have justified his actions to everyone, but beginning to think I really shouldn't have bothered!! I love him, but if he doesn't love me, then I'll pack my stuff and go, there's no mire chances! I tried to talk to him a couple of weeks ago and all I got was 'shut up, I don't want to talk'!!!

From what you say, it doesn't sound like you are made for each other at all.

I'd suggest you sit down and think about your relationship with this man and whether you want it to continue.
It doesn't sound like he wants to be with you.

funky_76

Pollycat - reading it back it does look a bit ridiculous doesnt it!! If we were made for each other then I wouldnt be feeling the way I am!
Got into bed last night and cried, this morning I woke up and cried again! He didnt even notice! If he did he just ignored me!

Lizzieb151

Ah look, life is too short to be wasting it - say 'right now this isn't working - do you want it to if not I'm out of here' That will give him the opportunity to say what's bothering him, if he's still not interested that's your answer.

Good Luck

Pollycat

Funky
If I were you, I'd try to find out exactly what this guy thinks about you.
Does he love you?
Does he see you having a future together?

If the answer to both those questions is 'Yes', then ask him what is wrong with him.
Why has he been in a weird mood since Christmas?
Why has he stopped being affectionate?
Why won't he talk to you?
And the important one - is he posting on dating sites?
And if he is - regardless of what he says, he doesn't love you.

Good luck.

funky_76

Thanks guys,
I am going to talk to him today and get this sorted, I cant go on like this. Its destroying me.
Will let you know the outcome!

Lizzieb151

Good Luck and big hugs