I feel sad

pinkykat

I am a mother of two on income support.
My daughter is 18yrs and just got herself an apprenticeship.
Told the benefits office and WOW.
I lose such a lot. I was getting child maintenance thats gone, I was getting for her living at home and in education, and child benefit, council tax benefit she has to pay, and now the jobcentre have been intouch and said that the interest on my mortgage will be stopped because she is earning and living in the house.
I was struggling before and now its even worse.
How can I take the bulk of her money off her I feel so sorry for her. And I feel awful having to even ask her for these amounts when she is just starting out into the world and I am going to have to take it away from her.
I cannot work as I am disabled I just wish that I was able to provide.

Mrs_Money

Sorry to hear all this - but well done her for getting an apprenticeship! I'm not an expert but can she get working tax credits? Just a thought.
And have you checked out the entitled to website - you can go all through it and check if you are entitled to anything else in the way of benefits, then perhaps also go and see your local Citizens Advice Bureau and ask them to check all through what you get etc and make sure it's right.
Good luck - it seems so unfair when just getting a job should be something to celebrate - not be punished for!

karenx

The daughter wont be able to claim working tax credits as you need to be over 25 and working 30hours plus per week.

I dont want this to sound nasty but what did you expect when your oldest gets a job? That you still get to keep all the benefits for her when she is out working?

geoff11

its called growing up, youve had to look after her, now its her turn, hey we all had to pay up when we got our first job so dont feel too bad.

Oldernotwiser

I think it's perfectly right that young people should pay their way and I'm sure your daughter will understand how tight things are and be proud to be making her contribution to the household.

geoff11

i remember my first job, it was a yts scheme, i got £16 a week and had to hand the lot over being from a 6 member family, funnily enough i didnt think too much of it as i felt i had to chip in now i was working even though i was left with nothing lol. of course that was then when we could make our own fun up without money oh oh no you dont im only 17 lol shhhhh.

McKneff

Please dont feel bad. She is learning a lifes lesson that she has now as she hits adulthood she has to pay her way. It wont do her any harm at all and will stand her in good stead for when she has to pay all her own way in time, when she moves out or gets married etc.

thistledome

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I think it's perfectly right that young people should pay their way and I'm sure your daughter will understand how tight things are and be proud to be making her contribution to the household.

I couldn't wait to start work and give my poor Mum some money. I'd watched her struggle financially for years and wanted to help as soon as I could.

OP, don't feel bad about asking your Daughter for keep, it's her turn now to look after you. Tell her how you feel, don't just keep quiet and try to be brave.

kegg_2

I think the ops problem is going to be not asking for keep from her adult child but the fact that they might be earning less than she is losing.
I dont know what sort of wage they will be earning but as it is an apprenticeship i cant see it being a great amount. Nor do i know how much interest of the ops mortgage is but it is unlikely an 8 year old would be able to take on that sort of commitment.

karenx

To try make things easier you could start by asking for £10 per week for a few weeks and then build it up to a reasonable amount.

chesky369

Do you know how much she will earn at her apprenticeship? It's not usually a huge amount.