Gift lists!

p-pincher

hi

me and oh are getting married in december

1)yes, together for 12, lived together for 7
2)No
3)I find that the shops that run these lists very expensive. I do like these shops and do actually buy things from these shops but to be honest anything that id ask for would be quite expensive because we have everything that we need so anything new would be an upgrade/designer(i.e expensive).

We only announced we were getting married recently and already people have been asking my mum where were having a list so it seems some people do expect one. We have not really discussed what the alternative is as we dont need the money for a honeymoon as were getting married in new york so were not actually having one. I would feel quite cheeky asking for money so if people ask i think the best compromise would be vouchers.

Torry_Quine

alenax wrote: »

Hello lovely ladies and gentlemen of MSE! I would like your help once again!

I'm writing an article for a website about gift lists and was wondering if you could answer a few questions for me, whether you've already tied the knot or are actively planning a wedding!

1. Did you live with your partner before getting married?
2. Did you register for a gift list? If so, where and what did you ask for?
3. If not, why not and what did you ask for instead?

Many thanks, if I use your quote you will all be credited of course and if it gets published, I'll post the link here.

Many thanks!

1. No
2. No
3. Didn't do anything. We were more than happy with everything we got, ironically we did get duplicates but as the people were freinds who were not actually invited to the wedding a list would not have solved that problem.

Lexxi

Me and my partner moved in together after 4 months, we run pubs on a temporary basis and were offered somewhere 60 miles away.
We won't be registering for a gift list, we move again next week and are having a clear out before we move because of the things we have accumulated in the last 12 months. I also find the shops that offer lists a little expensive. I'd feel cheeky asking someone to spend a lot of money on my wedding day, especially if it's not for every day use. Plus I wouldn't want anyone to feel inadequate if they couldn't afford things on the list, our friends range from self made to stay at home. I'd like to ask for contributions to the wedding, whether it's a fiver or a photographer and that the guests attend and enjoy themselves. I've not decided how best to ask yet, word of mouth or something in the invites

superfran_uk

Lexxi wrote: »

I also find the shops that offer lists a little expensive. I'd feel cheeky asking someone to spend a lot of money on my wedding day, especially if it's not for every day use. Plus I wouldn't want anyone to feel inadequate if they couldn't afford things on the list, our friends range from self made to stay at home.

Now if primark ran a list, that's something I could get behind :rotfl:

I agree though. Why force someone to pay a certain price for something at John Lewis or Debenhams which they could buy for half the price online?

superfran_uk

As a side note, it would be interesting to see whether people with a list receive more or less presents, or get more or less spent on them, than those without a list. It's a bit like restaurants which put a tip on themselves - I pay it to the penny and no more. If it was not requested I'd usually add a percentage then round it up.

There's got to be some kind of psychological studies into this!

frannyann

superfran_uk wrote: »

As a side note, it would be interesting to see whether people with a list receive more or less presents, or get more or less spent on them, than those without a list. It's a bit like restaurants which put a tip on themselves - I pay it to the penny and no more. If it was not requested I'd usually add a percentage then round it up.

There's got to be some kind of psychological studies into this!

I do something similar, If it is added but the words 'optional service charge' appear I ask the staff if they recieve the service charge (9 times out of 10 they say no) I then ask that it is removed. Then I leave a cash tip!

Stephb1986_2

1, We don't live together yet but will do before we marry.
2, No
3, We're asking for gift vouchers for any shop.

Steph xx

anderson8

1. Yes, weve lived together for 2 years
2. No
3. We're going to ask for donations towards our honeymoon as we dont need a single thing

superfran_uk

anderson8 wrote: »

1. Yes, weve lived together for 2 years
2. No
3. We're going to ask for donations towards our honeymoon as we dont need a single thing

According to your sig we're getting married on the same day.

Lexxi

superfran_uk wrote: »

Now if primark ran a list, that's something I could get behind :rotfl:

I agree though. Why force someone to pay a certain price for something at John Lewis or Debenhams which they could buy for half the price online?

Exactly! I suppose if I needed things I would rather say 'a toaster' 'a bed set' than a John Lewis finest luxury 900 count bedding set. Anyway surely most of the fun is opening prezzies than shaking a store wrapped box and saying 'thats the toaster we asked for'