who knows you are in debt?

loopyloulou_3

My parents know and a couple of our close friends know - strictly on a need to know basis!! LOL

My OH seems to have a habit tho of telling people (i.e. people we havent seen for years! which i find embarrassing!)

"oh well business collapsed and we have a lot of debt to show for it but thats life" - AHHHHHHHH why do they need to know that? I dont want to lie and pretend we have done well for ourselves etc - but I dont think he needs to broadcast it to people we havent seen for yonks (specially the ones whose parents have given them lots of money!) very annoying!

Who have you told?

Mirtos

Mum and Dad. OH. Some of my friends know I'm in debt, but not how much! ......Oh, and thousands of strangers on this chat forum thingy I visit!!!!

crawley_girl

No-one really knows except me. A few mates know a bit but not the whole story and that's the way I like it. My parents would be supportive but I feel that they don't need to know this in the same way they don't need to know about my sister's sexual conquests!!! I would tell them if the situation worsened and I needed to talk through my options...

:heartpuls CG :heartpuls

Broken_hearted

I don't know who knows to be honest. My parents only found out how much we owed when I was dancing around saying we only owe £15,000.

mrsmess

my mum cried and got really stressed when I told her I wanted to get it off my chest and be open about it but it made me feel worse.

Kevicho

Mostly people on here and i told friends in a bid to stop them pestering me to be in the pub every night

The only person in my family who knows is my cousin, but im sure they suspect, but im going to come clean when its sorted

I just dont think they need the stress, plus i wanted to sort this myself

newleaf

My OH and my best friend both know the awful truth. (My best friend has the same problem, and we support each other). Other friends have some idea, but don't know how much, and I don't make a 'big deal' about my money saving in front of them, although obviously I'm now always mindful of my spending.

lynzpower

everyone knows to a certain extent. I owe my folks money so of course they know

no one seems to think it unusual, until i tell them I want to be debt free then they cant get thier head around it :rolleyes:

doelani

just me and hubby....other family know we no longer use credit carsd but do not know why

lazy&indebt

Everyone that knows me! I'm so open about things and I tell everyone that I have an ISA and am saving up to pay off my debts and recommending to people that they get themselves an ISA but TBH, My debts have never really been a problem or spiralled out of control, more of an annoyance really. I suppose if I was in a worse situation then I wouldn't have told so many people!

tru

Everyone knows.

We kept getting asked to the pub, cinema, bowling.........if I said 'we can't afford it' the reply would be 'but it's only £X' so I'd say 'I haven't got £X' - 'I'll lend it to you til payday' - 'I can't afford to pay you back' - 'but it's only £X' and so the conversation went on, round and round in circles :rolleyes:

My answer now is always 'Do you really think it's a good idea to lend money to someone who's in debt? I'll put you at the bottom of my creditor's list, you'll be paid last of course because it'll be cash and there's no actual proof that I owe you anything. I could choose not to pay you at all and there's nothing you can do about it' :rotfl: