depression

Horasio

blinky wrote:

Another thought which sometimes makes me hard to change: If I didn't have low self esteem, anxiety and depression problems would I not have all the qualities my best friends see in me - kind, considerate, selfless and generous ?

I think part of me is scared that I'd lose those if I conquered my problems...

I don't think you lose your basic 'niceness' when you feel good, but at least you would enjoy life. You are giving up your happiness for others. If you change through feeling OK, and people don't like it, they don't care for YOU

Miroslav

EthelBloggs wrote:

I think little children is about something else.. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0404203/ so it might not be so bad

have a good day everyone!

I'm getting mixed reports on this, different sites say different things........I think the sexual abuse is actually a guy who exposed himself to one of the other characters and has been inside.

Need to be careful, for my own sake, as well as 'S'. I don't know everything but flatmate has hinted that she may not enjoy it because of this.

Thanks for the link!

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

I can love and care for others but not myself and cannot understand why people like me

Must get some sleep back at work at 7am

I am the same...........but know I'm really nice, caring, kind and a very decent person.

There is not alot to dislike about me, and i'm sure the same can be said about you...

You say you are 33? As we get older, we learn to accept things more, and in time, i'm sure all of us here who don't accept ourselves, will do........because you'll hit the point where I am at now........I really don't give a monkey's behind what people think about me..............other than those I care about!

Until the last few weeks, I'd always been an outwardly hard and cold person.......i'm suddenly a new person and it's scary! My insides are coming out, so to speak!

By coming on here, you'll hear other experiences and be able to take from others ideas etc etc and hopefully put them into practice, just like your posts, others will be able to take from

Sazbo

CCStar wrote:

I don't understand why partners/husbands object to people taking pills. They are not happy with their partners as they are and pills are meant to be helpful. !!!!!! do they want?, you can't win!:mad:

I am not anti-men or want to seem sexist, but so many men I meet are so difficult to get along with, I do wonder how much they contribute to the low feeling? They certainly don't seem to help. Strangely enough I got on really well with men when I was in my teens but since graduating in my early 20s, I have felt them to be an obstacle and worse than any difficult child.

I had counselling without pills and whilst all counselling is useful, it didn't crack my basic problem, I still felt low. I took pills then had the energy to pursue it which did really help me. I felt a real breakthorough. My problem was with my hormones and so called caring friends and family not supporting me when I needed it. I felt really alone and I was not very nice to them as I felt abandoned and attacked.

Once the physical element of any low feeling is sorted, you are clear to help yourself, and be less needy of others.

I totally agree CCStar. It shocks me how many partners are like that :mad: To me it seems like a control thing - ie if you are not coping it easy for people like that to feel superior, or dominant, or something? And so getting treatment and getting better is a threat to their ability to control the relationship? I just don't get it; I never have...

Sazbo

CCStar wrote:

I don't think you lose your basic 'niceness' when you feel good, but at least you would enjoy life. You are giving up your happiness for others. If you change through feeling OK, and people don't like it, they don't care for YOU

I agree with this too, CCStar You won't lose those characteristics when you feel better, but - perhaps most importantly - it will enable you to start appreciating those qualities in yourself.

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote:

My insides are coming out, so to speak!

Shall I get you a plaster, Miro hun? :D

Miroslav wrote:

Until the last few weeks, I'd always been an outwardly hard and cold person.......i'm suddenly a new person and it's scary!

- a new person; yes, a bit scary; but great too.

Re: film, yes it says on The Guardian film site something about a character doing time for child abuse, although saying that it doesn't appear to be a central part of the story but perhaps based on what your flatmate said maybe something else might be a safer choice?

Sazbo

Hi everyone. Just a quickie. Hope everyone's having a good day. I didn't sleep again, as predicted :rolleyes: head's all over the place, but at least it's lunchtime so that means I've only half a day left to endure at the [STRIKE]prison[/STRIKE] office...

Love to all,
Saz xxx

Horasio

Sazbo wrote:

Hi everyone. Just a quickie. Hope everyone's having a good day. I didn't sleep again, as predicted :rolleyes: head's all over the place, but at least it's lunchtime so that means I've only half a day left to endure at the [STRIKE]prison[/STRIKE] office...

Love to all,
Saz xxx

I feel terrible if I don't sleep:mad:

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

I am the same...........but know I'm really nice, caring, kind and a very decent person.

There is not alot to dislike about me, and i'm sure the same can be said about you...

You say you are 33? As we get older, we learn to accept things more, and in time, i'm sure all of us here who don't accept ourselves, will do........because you'll hit the point where I am at now........I really don't give a monkey's behind what people think about me..............other than those I care about!

Until the last few weeks, I'd always been an outwardly hard and cold person.......i'm suddenly a new person and it's scary! My insides are coming out, so to speak!

By coming on here, you'll hear other experiences and be able to take from others ideas etc etc and hopefully put them into practice, just like your posts, others will be able to take from

I felt I could stop caring about what people thought of me at 33

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Shall I get you a plaster, Miro hun? :D



- a new person; yes, a bit scary; but great too.

Re: film, yes it says on The Guardian film site something about a character doing time for child abuse, although saying that it doesn't appear to be a central part of the story but perhaps based on what your flatmate said maybe something else might be a safer choice?

It's gonna need more than just a plaster

It is scary, but i'm getting responses...........had a lady around earlier to talk about our improvements to the home which start next Tuesday........flatmate noticed she couldn't keep her eyes off me :rotfl:

Well, might be better for both of us who have had difficult childhoods.........as it is, don't think it will still be there to watch come Friday.....

The Devils Prada is an option, though not sure what it's about.......not keen on that Borat rubbish, there are 11 films, so we have a choice.