depression

Tiff_2

rose07 wrote:

hi tiff and bettyboop

oh tiff you made me laugh there with the box idea, great idea, just a shame you allergic to it all.

my mum is doing my head in at the mo, given me orders and shouting she is a mad one, :mad:

how are you feeling today bettyboop??

not having a job is getting me down, im just a struggling artist at the mo.

the place you have researched looks good, do you know when you will be going there, may i firstly say well done in taking the steps to making sure you get the help you need i found it soo hard to do this, but well done you :A

(((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))) to you all

xxx

Hi Rose - hope you're ok angel. Isn't that what mothers are meant to do? You always say that you'll never be like that with your own child.
But trust me, childbirth results in brain damage and a sense of humour bypass often follows!:rolleyes: You wait and see!:rolleyes:
I wish you well in your job hunt. Struggling artists always seem to get a happy ending angel. I've thought about writing but you generally don't become rich and famous until about 30 years after you died!!!:D
I've noticed that it's usually sensitive and creative people that end up with depression and that's what's so frustrating because you know what's wrong & you can't make your body fix it.
I always felt ashamed of saying and having depression - people often can't relate to it and come back with the old 'come on - get a grip' attitude after a while, or they just don't come back.
I tried an experiment by telling people that I hadn't seen for a long time and who said I looked unwell, that I had a chemical imbalance in the brain ( nothing to do with me being blonde by the way!) - which is a common description for depression - and the immediate concern and caring was incredible. I hope that people will one day recognise just how common it is and that the stigma will go. The illness itself is hard enough to deal with as it is. Hang in there folks x

Tiff_2

tigertiger wrote:

Hi all dont know if this site has been mentioned in any other post but its very good.

.http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/lounge/default.asp?sectionid=0.

Thanks tigertiger - I'll look at this site.
Loving the sheep!!!
Best wishes, Tiff

Tiff_2

Welcome on board Carol! Thanks for sharing. I could relate to most of what you said (won't bore you with my bits )It's a hard road & this thread has been amazing because it's shown me I'm not travelling alone. Take care.

rose07

hi everyone

how are you doing tiff and bettyboop?

thanks for sharing your story carol x

and welcome tiger


thanks tiff, i am sure all mums arent like my mum, she doesnt treat me as though i am an adult she is very abusive and controlling and i think this contributes to my health alot.
i have a job, wooo hooo, nothing permanent, just some part time work freelancing as a camera person, but it is something and means i can keep doing what i love instead of doing a job i hate.
yeah im a very sensitive and creative person, just didnt realise it, lol.
yeah know what you mean tiff people always say, arrhh get over it but if only they realised its not that easy its not a snap ya fingers there ya go thing, it takes time and alot of strength.

love and hugs to everyone
stay strong and you wil get there
xxx

Tiff_2

rose07 wrote:

hi everyone

how are you doing tiff and bettyboop?
thanks for sharing your story carol x
and welcome tiger

thanks tiff, i am sure all mums arent like my mum, she doesnt treat me as though i am an adult she is very abusive and controlling and i think this contributes to my health alot.
i have a job, wooo hooo, nothing permanent, just some part time work freelancing as a camera person, but it is something and means i can keep doing what i love instead of doing a job i hate.
yeah im a very sensitive and creative person, just didnt realise it, lol.
yeah know what you mean tiff people always say, arrhh get over it but if only they realised its not that easy its not a snap ya fingers there ya go thing, it takes time and alot of strength.
love and hugs to everyone
stay strong and you wil get there
xxx

Morning Rose, Morning Everyone,
I'm sorry to hear things aren't good at home Rose.
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR JOB!!!:T
It must be fantastic to do a job you're passionate about. And hey, it's something else to go on your CV right? Another step on the ladder.;)
Whenever I have to explain that I have depression to someone, you can almost see them looking for the nearest exit!:rolleyes:
I tell them it's okay, that I've never met an axe murderer and that I am allowed to handle sharp objects!!!:rotfl: But I do have to say there are an amazing amount of good guys out there too.:T
I'm hoping everyone is okay. Thinking of all of you.
Much love. x

rose07

Tiff wrote:

Morning Rose, Morning Everyone,
I'm sorry to hear things aren't good at home Rose.
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR JOB!!!:T
It must be fantastic to do a job you're passionate about. And hey, it's something else to go on your CV right? Another step on the ladder.;)
Whenever I have to explain that I have depression to someone, you can almost see them looking for the nearest exit!:rolleyes:
I tell them it's okay, that I've never met an axe murderer and that I am allowed to handle sharp objects!!!:rotfl: But I do have to say there are an amazing amount of good guys out there too.:T
I'm hoping everyone is okay. Thinking of all of you.
Much love. x

hi tiff
how ya doing?

yeah home is very stressful at the moment. esp when i have just finished uni and feel like i should be out there seeing the world, as it were. but have noo money to do that.
yeah its good to have the job, but it is only contracted, and not permanat, but def something i can put on the cv, yey.
i am feeling quite bad tonight, hence the lateness, lol, i find it soo hard to sleep at the moment. and because my job is an on off thing i am soo bored at the moment, its soo hard but me a strong little thing, lol. feel like im in circles at the mo, but hope things will get a bit better soon.
i know tiff its like as soon as you say depression, people dont know what to say, they think your going mad or something, and its not like that at all, it is an illness that is both hard to overcome and a battle whilst going through it.
(((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))) to everyone
xxxxx

muffin502

Hi to everyone who has posted on this thread. I have had clinical depression for about 21 years - I will do a separate post on my experience on another thread as this is just a quick one!

I have had to have a lot of time off work due to my depression. My job is quite stressful and I have to deal with the public which can be very difficult when you just want to stay in bed and not see a soul. To make matters worst my employer does not pay me when I am off - I only get SSP - wow that really helps pay the mortgage. Has anyone else had this experience with their employers? They have told me I am only entitled to 20 days paid sick leave and once this entitlement has been used, they do not pay you. I have never come across this with any other company before and I have worked for them for nearly 5 years. So, as well as being off for an illness I did not ask for, I have added financial worries which certainly do not help my mental state. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

beachbeth

I have depression and first realised it in 1994 when a doctor told me. I couldn't believe it because Im such a smiley, happy person. I thought all my stomach aches/flu/headaches etc were symptoms of some virus. There were days when I couldn't leave the house, answer the phone or the door. People who don't suffer just can't understand this. The only way I can describe it is that its similar to when you have the flu and your body feels to heavy to do anything.

I have been on and off anti-depressants, the first one being quite a strong one which made me feel a bit spaced out (can't remember the name). Although these tablets weren't ideal, they took the awful feeling of dread away and I felt as though the sun had come out for the first time in months!

I managed to stop taking it and felt like normal again for a while, only for my depression to hit again. I always know when its coming on because I get up in the morning and, even if Ive only got one thing to do the whole day, I feel as though I am never going to be able to do it and my sense of humour goes too!

Three things keep me on an even keel at the moment (although I have my bad days still) and they are:

1. Not having to work. My husband earns a decent wage and I get Incapacity Benefit (you are entitled to this if you've been working for 10 years and have been paying National Insurance)
2. Having dogs. They relax me and are happy to join me in a walk or a nap or whatever else Im doing and don't judge me.
3. Seroxat. Everytime I try to come off them (im on 20mg a day) I just sink back into tearfulness and feeling as though I can't cope. So now I just take them and don't even think about stopping.

My mum is a very difficult person to deal with and my hubbie is convinced she is the cause of my depression. She is very critical and I could never do right for doing wrong most of the time. His theory is that, if you researched enough into depression, you would find that it is caused by whoever brought you up, whether it is mum, dad or grandparent and Im inclined to agree.

Tiff_2

muffin502 wrote:

Hi to everyone who has posted on this thread. I have had clinical depression for about 21 years - I will do a separate post on my experience on another thread as this is just a quick one!

I have had to have a lot of time off work due to my depression. My job is quite stressful and I have to deal with the public which can be very difficult when you just want to stay in bed and not see a soul. To make matters worst my employer does not pay me when I am off - I only get SSP - wow that really helps pay the mortgage. Has anyone else had this experience with their employers? They have told me I am only entitled to 20 days paid sick leave and once this entitlement has been used, they do not pay you. I have never come across this with any other company before and I have worked for them for nearly 5 years. So, as well as being off for an illness I did not ask for, I have added financial worries which certainly do not help my mental state. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hi Muffin - sorry to hear how stressed out you are angel - it's understandable and if it's any help, some of us posters here have been in your shoes. SSP is all you'll get I believe BUT I am amazed that you have not applied for DLA with you having clinical depression for 21 years?
Mental ill health is classified under Disability Living Allowance and as long as you've been ill for 6+ months and it's likely to be long term, and it's certainly stopping you from working 'normally'. As you say, the stress doesn't help your illness. I think you should apply. If you do Call 08457 123456 (Disability Living Allowance Office) and ask for a claim pack to be sent to you.
- The form is long and daunting and you should either see CAB or DIAL to help you fill it in because they are experienced in using the coorect wording.
- The forms they send you will be dated - the whole process (writing to your GP etc) can take 3-4 months & if granted DLA, it will be backdated to the date on their forms.
- There are 2 parts - care & mobility.
I hope this has been helpful to someone.
Best wishes

CarolnMalky

Morning everyone...hope everyone is feeling ok today.
I see a common theme here in that most of our mothers are controlling and abusive and generally not very understanding...my hubby is convinced my mum is the cause of my state of health.
Wee update, was at the gyn yesterday and Ive to go back in February, they took bloods yesterday, so will have to wait and see what happens.But me being me is worried sick, tearful, sleep pattern is non existent, and IBS is playing up big time.
I was in receipt of DLA low rate mobility(wow) and the DWP in their infinite wisdom have decided I no longer need it, that I can go our on my own, despite not having done so for 18 months...needless to say appeal is in and I will update here!
Rose congrats on your job! hope all goes well.
Tiff you are a source of useful information, thanks for all the advice.
Hope everyone has a dreadfree, tear free day!
Love n hugs
Carol xx