Telling my employer I am pregnant

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Bobl wrote: »

No gloomy attitude here, just commenting on the facts. Whilst it may be the law that pregnant women do not have to tell their employers immediately, there is still the matter of trust; it is a two way thing you know.

Lol, people change their minds on this sort of thing all the time. Unless you are paying an employee an amount of money to agree not to become pregnant asking is pointless. Besides is the employer asking his single male interviewees if they are using contraception at every sexual encounter?

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Proc wrote: »

Contribute what? You think that bringing a child into the world you're helping anyone other than yourself? Parents to new-borns think that the world owes them some massive divine favour for bringing up a child. It doesn't.

Lol, not many people thankful you were born eh?

Terrible selfish women. :rolleyes:

rachyrach2k

well i'm sorry but some of the comments on here are just plain silly.

It is the most natural thing in the world for a woman to get pregnant. It is the reason why we are here on this earth; to procreate.

So if this employer is struggling because his staff keep getting pregnant, then he should handle the situation better and be prepared for these kind of things.

It just shows that we are still in a male dominated world if a woman has to fight for her rights to work just because God equipped them with the ability to produce babies.

jacqhale

Proc wrote: »

Contribute what? You think that bringing a child into the world you're helping anyone other than yourself? Parents to new-borns think that the world owes them some massive divine favour for bringing up a child. It doesn't.

The other guy didn't work as he was supposed to. He has been fired/let go/whatever accordingly. Having children is an incredible priviledge...not a right that everyone seems to think they are entitled to.

It's this culture that is leading us to over-population. But that's one for another thread.

Contribute to the economy with money to spend and money taken from my wages in tax .................... contribute in the future by bringing up and paying for a generation that will pay for and take care of people from other generations that didn't contribute to society in the form of kids yet still need a healthcare service and other services to look after them when they are older or in need ........

I don't think children are a right - they are indeed a privilege and I count myself very lucky to be able to have the family I want. We are not over-populating just replacing one for me and one for my husband, and we can afford to do it without relying on the state.

Anyway, it's a bit off topic as I only wanted advice on the best way to go about telling my employer if anyone had any tips from being in the same situation etc ...

janninew

I feel for you OP, I'm 8 months pregnant and my boss has been fantastic. It most be very stressfull for you, but try not to worry to much as you have to put baby first now! Your just going to have to tell him and what ever is going to happen will happen. If you are dismissed/bullied etc speak to the CAB and see what your options are. If there is nothing you can do juat be glad you no longer work for a company that treats staff like this.

I can see your employers point of view though also, women can never be treated fairly in the work place due to pregnancy. What would happen if every women in England decided not to have children beause they wanted to be treated the same as men? Its such a difficult position to be in from both sides!

Good luck though and sorry for babbling on!!

euronorris

Proc wrote: »

Contribute what? You think that bringing a child into the world you're helping anyone other than yourself? Parents to new-borns think that the world owes them some massive divine favour for bringing up a child. It doesn't.

I think you missed the point here. I read the post as contributing through work, not relying on benefits etc. I don't think anyone believes that the world owes them anything for bringing up a child! lol

I can see where you're coming from though. It must be very difficult for small businesses, but........we all still have a basic need to reproduce, to keep the population going if nothing else. And yes, the planet is becoming increasingly populated, but suddenly stopping dead would cause a different problem. I digress.

Most women want to work, but should not be discriminated against if they do decide to have children/accidentally fall pregnant. Not everyone wants kids, some don't early on and then change their mind etc etc. The law is their to protect against discrimination against everyone.

The only other feasible solution I can see is that either a) women don't work at all (not financially sound) or b) they return to work after only 2 weeks off (which is just ridiculous).

The law has tried to find a balance that fits the majority, ie, most fair. Unfortunately, that means that someone is always going to get a raw deal, but I don't really see how else they can do it.

Zazen999

jacqhale wrote: »

But times are tough and sales are down.

And therein lies what will probably be told to you as soon as there is a whiff that you are pregnant.

DKLS

euronorris wrote: »

but........we all still have a basic need to reproduce, to keep the population going if nothing else. And yes, the planet is becoming increasingly populated, but suddenly stopping dead would cause a different problem. I digress.

Some people have the basic need to reproduce, I have no desire to reproduce, and have taken care of fertility so no accidents can happen.

Its a huge issue for the child free job hunter, when my Oh was looking for a new role, she freely volunteered the fact that she was child free and wouldn't be having any, this went down very positively with recruiters.
Personally I would be reluctant to hire a woman of child bearing years, unless it was on a freelance contract basis.

Her role isnt suited to parents, her employer expects a certain level of loyalty, and not to be running off when a child is sick or a school is closed.

purplepardalis

No one will be moaning when the younger generation will be paying tax and contributing to the country's infrastructure and benefits/pensions.

I would love a child and know that I will bring he or she up to be a member of society that contributes and is not a drain. For the sake of 9 months of help during maternity leave, 50 years plus of someone paying taxes is a good return.

aj2703

Bobl wrote: »

No gloomy attitude here, just commenting on the facts. Whilst it may be the law that pregnant women do not have to tell their employers immediately, there is still the matter of trust; it is a two way thing you know.

So if she told him, do you think she could have trusted him to conduct the interview fairly and unbiased and still give her the job..?

The second she told him the job would be out of the window. But as you say trust is a two way thing.:rolleyes: