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lulumoo

So ... I have had to get in touch with the CSA as my ex partner is a wealthy property developer he has two companies neither registered for tax purposes and also rents out large blocks of flats at least 30 at £750.00 each. I have only resorted to the CSA because he keeps calling me a gold digger and despite trying my best to have him be involved with our daughter who is 1.5 he just lets her down all the time so I have pulled the plug on it all and decided to speak to CSA. I may be a gold digger by doing this I guess but I am really damned if I do and damned if I don't and buying a child a small present at christmas would not of hurt him. On our last contact visit I saw all the presents spread under the christmas tree but nothing for our child.. it actually made me realise that he does not care about her at all anyway.

So now the CSA have told me that he is not going to comply and they have set up a nominal amount for him to pay as he will not disclose his income... so I guess that's it then.. the CSA have told me there is nothing they can do about getting his income ... CAN this be right? I mean how come this Government Agency has been set up to chase these Dad's and then can't do ANYTHING... arrrggghhhh as it goes I have a mortgage and work but applied to the CSA to prove a point... that a child should have emotional and financial support from both parents he has not given her any emotional support so I am now seeing if the man can give her a little bit of financial support... anyway if there is anything I can do .. please help... this guy laughs and laughs and laughs all the time... x

DUTR

Contact and financial support are seperate, I wouldn't class what you are doing as gold digging, (it's only when you try to the nth degree to maximise ) you can't make him care, and in fairness is an 18 month child really aware of xmas and gifts etc? If he pays a nominal amount it is better than nothing as there are some PWCs more deserving that get nothing
Good luck though.

DX2

lulumoo wrote: »

So ... I have had to get in touch with the CSA as my ex partner is a wealthy property developer he has two companies neither registered for tax purposes and also rents out large blocks of flats at least 30 at £750.00 each. I have only resorted to the CSA because he keeps calling me a gold digger and despite trying my best to have him be involved with our daughter who is 1.5 he just lets her down all the time so I have pulled the plug on it all and decided to speak to CSA. I may be a gold digger by doing this I guess but I am really damned if I do and damned if I don't and buying a child a small present at christmas would not of hurt him. On our last contact visit I saw all the presents spread under the christmas tree but nothing for our child.. it actually made me realise that he does not care about her at all anyway.

So now the CSA have told me that he is not going to comply and they have set up a nominal amount for him to pay as he will not disclose his income... so I guess that's it then.. the CSA have told me there is nothing they can do about getting his income ... CAN this be right? I mean how come this Government Agency has been set up to chase these Dad's and then can't do ANYTHING... arrrggghhhh as it goes I have a mortgage and work but applied to the CSA to prove a point... that a child should have emotional and financial support from both parents he has not given her any emotional support so I am now seeing if the man can give her a little bit of financial support... anyway if there is anything I can do .. please help... this guy laughs and laughs and laughs all the time... x

I really hope you are thick skinned as I feel a lot of negative posts may be coming your way!

Loopy_Girl

You could report him to the HMRC for tax evasion and then he may start submitting SA and the CSA can work from that...it's the only thing I can think of

kelloggs36

if you have evidence of his true income then apply for a variation on the grounds that his income is inconsistent with his lifestyle and then appeal when it gets rejected (they always do). You will need concrete evidence of his income and his lifestyle - what do you have| If you know the addresses, then go to the landregistry and get evidence of his property ownership - it costs £4 each property.

speedster

DX2 wrote: »

I really hope you are thick skinned as I feel a lot of negative posts may be coming your way!

i would, but they'd be wasted...........

DX2

speedster wrote: »

i would, but they'd be wasted...........

:doh: at least you knew I meant you.

PlayingHardball

speedster wrote: »

i would, but they'd be wasted...........

YES! And about time you realised this, I'd say.

I don't feel you would have anything helpful to advise the OP anyway, as all I read from your posts are anger, malice and contempt to parents on here who seek financial support from NRP's through the CSA.

I wish the OP all the best, good on you, don't give up.

lulumoo

Hey thanks guys for your responses I am pretty thick skinned you sort of get fairly thick skinned when your kid gets repeatedly rejected by its father. I understand what you say about an 18month not understanding christmas presents but to be fair this guy could of at least brought a teddy that would of been all it would of took after all a 18month old can hardly be deemed as being a gold digger either he could of just brought a token gesture same on her birthday after all it wouldn't of hurt would it?

I am in so many different minds this guy at one stage asked me to hand her over and he would give me £100,000 needless to say I refused of course :-) but he has never been a constant in her life and I am very much of the opinion that he could be if he had wanted to and after 18 months of a week on and three weeks off. I have decided the option is CSA only to find that just a waste of time after all a government agency that cannot access such information seems a silly thing to me. They are just like sorry he won't disclose we can't do anything too be honest I would continue even if it was £1.00 a month the money isn't really the issue and without getting slated its the principle of it all now.

After all men have choices as well you should never plan a child and then walk out on its every need after all that child never asked to be brought into the world. I have tried everything I have therefore given up on any hope of him being there for her and whilst it seems vindictive to go CSA I feel I have nothing to lose.

All parents who are raising children on their own are deserving of something to help with the upbringing of their child.

kelloggs36

lulumoo you don't need to justify your motives - he is clearly not deserving of being a father and needs to face up to the fact that whether he likes it or not, he has financial responsibilities.

lulumoo

It has been an emotional roller coaster that's for sure but I have let go of so much that I am alot calmer in myself and I enjoy my baby as all mum's do just wanting the best for her that's all and sadly he is an accident waiting to happen I think he may be on viagra :-) and it does worry me that if for instance he gets someone else pregnant and they take him to the "cleaners" that I didn't make a stand for our little one as by then it would be too late ... I seriously have bent over backwards so as he is concerned he has come and gone late at night to see her always unsociable hours and disruptive and the abusive that has come out of his mouth has been terrible.

I last saw him at Christmas and was made to feel that I should be happy that he had wanted to spend an hour with her I had to take her to him and I just sat there and thought I can't do it anymore!! :-( since then he hasn't been in touch not once and I have stopped contacting him just waiting for the next time he wants to see her on a whim.. truely tragic if you ask me x