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**Weekend chat thread 2/3 Jan 2010**
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scaredy_cat wrote: »will he see a dr to get signed off with stress Lou?
He would see that as a total failure on his part though scaredy, he is a very proud man and believes that you should be able to face whatever life throws at you and just deal with it (damage in childhood I fear).
He would also worry about having "signed off with stress" on his medical records for any future employment.But these things take time, I know that I'm, the most inept that ever stepped.0 -
Lou - they wouldn't have to put 'stress' on his sick note. I know someone who is off work with stress but the doc puts 'virus infection' and such like on hers.Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task. William James0
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Lou~Its always a difficult one.
But must be bad if the thought of going back makes him ill.
Could he go & get a line from GP meantime to give him a bit of breathing space meantime?I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
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lou - http://www.bacpworkplace.org.uk/journal_pdf/acw_summer06-e.pdf
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Employment/HealthAndSafetyAtWork/DG_10026604
Employers have a Duty of Care to their employees....Cats don't have owners - they have staff!!
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Sorry crossed post Lou.
Something else can go on sick note as Ellidee says.I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
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ask him Lou, is he going to be doing you and your family any good if he has a break down? best to take some time off now....
(sorry if this sounds harsh)Cats don't have owners - they have staff!!
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Lou - they wouldn't have to put 'stress' on his sick note. I know someone who is off work with stress but the doc puts 'virus infection' and such like on hers.
To be honest Elli he needs to get out of there, it is the most mis-managed company who just squeeze all they can out of their employees and rule with a rod of fear of losing their jobs.
It has had a lot to answer for over the years let me tell you, lots of things have suffered:o
He has zero confidence at getting work anywhere else, I have even suggested that he resigns and goes to university in September doing whatever he fancies, he just says "whats the point at my age"? He is 45, I dont think he is ready for the scrap heap yet but he does.
Do you know what he is looking forward to? Retirement!!!But these things take time, I know that I'm, the most inept that ever stepped.0 -
Where are you then Ellidee? Wirral way?? I'm from Halewood, but now living in Sussex..Debt-free...and staying that way...0
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Lou, tell him there was a chap who was 50 on my Diploma course, and there are quite a few over 40 on the FDA course!Cats don't have owners - they have staff!!
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scaredy_cat wrote: »Lou, tell him there was a chap who was 50 on my Diploma course, and there are quite a few over 40 on the FDA course!
I have adult learners changing their careers or starting their first at 40+ its like talking to a brick wall scaredy:o
There was a time when it looked like he might have been made redundant but alas it didnt happen. I know that some people will see this as selfish as at least he has a job but I would rather halve our income than see him being destroyed like this.
OK I have made myself really upset now so I best get off to bed.
Thanks as always for your support, it really does mean so much:ABut these things take time, I know that I'm, the most inept that ever stepped.0
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