Finding some-one years later

hilary1

How do you go about finding a son you have not seen for 20 years?

We saw my OHs ex wife (from 20 years ago) in Sainsburys one day and although I told him to go and speak she said that if he ever saw his son out with her he must never tell him who he is.

OH has always wanted to contact his son but scared to, but as time goes on and we're geting older he thinks more and more about him and wants to find him but doesnt know how.

I'm adding this in hope it is allowed. If not administrators please edit.

My OH on Friends re-united:
What I want to do in the future:
To find my son before I do anything else.
Born Terry David Pass, born 22 November 1979 in City General. Mothers name Grace nee Brookes.
Fathers name David Pass, now Boothe
Maternal grandparents, Beryl Brookes and George(?) Brookes from Kidsgrove.
Uncles - Kevin, Paul, Clive Brookes and Alan (surname not certain). Aunties - Hazel, Joy and Lynn Brookes.
Paternal grandparents - Doreen Miller and Ray Miller of Biddulph

SnowyOwl_2

Your OH's son is an adult now so he'll be on the electoral role. That'd be a good place to start.

Also consider looking at Friends Reunited - it's v.popular with school leavers, especially from more recent years.

Sounds like your OH's ex still has a chip on her shoulder, or has told her son some untruths. IMO the young man in question is perfectly entitled to know who his father is and to have more details about his own background, especially if there are any hereditary medical conditions he'd be better off knowing about.

Good luck, I hope it becomes a happy ending, even if the ex is obstructive.

Dora_the_Explorer_5

The Salvation Army website has details of their tracing service.

mookiandco

I have PM'ed you with results from electoral register.

good luck with your search.