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moving a relative into a care home out of area?

edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Over 50s Money Saving
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edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Over 50s Money Saving
Hello, things are pretty bad with my nan who lives alone in a 3 bed (council) house, we think she has dementa but is going down very very quickly so we think she might have yet another UTI. She isn't coping at all, to cut a long story short shes not happy where is some (sometimes, other times she wants to stay) and its putting huge huge pressure on my dad. We want to move her into a care home (as it would be best for her) but don't know how to get the ball rolling. Social services have been really good but are trying to do all they can to let her stay in her own home (but have said she has deterated in less than a week). We asked how to get the ball rolling to moving her and the lady wasn't sure and said she would get back to us, but i wanted to do some research. We want to move her out the area to be by us (she is over 1 1/2 away, has no visitors other than age concern volunteers and im disabled so my parents have to look after me). How do we go about moving her?
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  • FarwayFarway Forumite
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    I had similar problem with my mum

    The current area must agree to fund the new area as first hurdle, we had problem same as you, current area wanted mum to stay at home, despite it being obvious to any fool she could not cope as things were.

    To start ball rolling see what your area offers, I am in Hampshire and quite honestly found council funded was virtually non existent, spend ages visiting care homes supposed to accept LA funded, only to find they did not

    In my case my mum died before anything was sorted out

    I hope your search is not as fruitless as mine turned out, good luck
  • As Farway says the first step will be to get the SS in your nans area to accept that a care home placement is the right course of action. This agreement from the SS will only come if they are either convinced that your nan wants this or that she is incapable of making a rational decision and is a danger to herself or others. If thought to be incapable that opens up a more complex assessment area.

    You can use a care home in another area but funding has to come from your nans current home area. This can be problematic as each area set their own standard fee levels and if the desired care home area has higher standard fees the funding SS will not fund to the higher level of fees. This can leave the family having to fund 3rd party top-ups to the care home fees.

    A good source of more information is www.counselandcare.org.uk who publish factsheets on care home funding. Or alternatively you could try Help the Aged or one of the other charities operating in this area.
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    Hello, things are pretty bad with my nan who lives alone in a 3 bed (council) house....., we think she has dementa but is going down very very quickly... She isn't coping at all, to cut a long story short shes not happy where is some (sometimes, other times she wants to stay) and its putting huge huge pressure on my dad.

    . We want to move her out the area to be by us (she is over 1 1/2 away, has no visitors other than age concern volunteers and im disabled so my parents have to look after me). How do we go about moving her?

    Bit confused about her situation, where does you Dad fit into the picture?Would it perhaps be better initially if you arranged a council house transfer (something smaller may be easier to for her to manage)so she is near you? That would get her into your area for future care home funding and you can monitor/visit her in the interim, which could help arrest her decline.
    Trying to keep it simple...;)
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