How can people be so pessimistic all the time?

StevieJ

Cleaver wrote: »

Apologies to those that have read this far expecting a moral, point or reason for this post. There isn't really any of that, just a random load of waffle.

Extremely sorry to hear that Cleaver

StevieJ

the_ash_and_the_oak wrote: »

unless you sell and rent again like my grandparents! then they pay money each month again!

At least they have funds from the house sale to finance it.

the_ash_and_the_oak

StevieJ wrote: »

At least they have funds from the house sale to finance it.

absolutely! worked out v well for them imo

hpi is great for owners!

chucky

Cleaver wrote: »

we just both realised how futile having a load of cash is if you're not with the people you love.

Thanks for posting that Cleaver and I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your dear mother.

I don't think I'm ever going to post on this forum again after reading that, it was very moving.

Cleaver

chucky wrote: »

Thanks for posting that Cleaver and I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your dear mother.

Thanks to you and everyone else for the very nice comments. I've just re-read my post and I was pouring my heart out a little bit wasn't I?! Sorry 'bout that!

chucky wrote: »

I don't think I'm ever going to post on this forum again after reading that, it was very moving.

Graham will be pleased.

Pobby

Sorry to hear that cleaver. I lost Mum just a little bit over 14 years ago. At least she was only 5 weeks short of 87 so as my late God Father would say " a good innings ". I admit I was left an inheritance which more than likely, saved me from going br. I had a business that was , in part, damaged by rent increases, a house that the mortgage had risen by a good deal, the 90`s. It`s something that sits in a very uncomfortable way with me.

Many years ago I spoke to a very dear friend about these guilt feelings. He said that it would what Mum and Dad would have wanted and I guess that is true. It has certainly changed the way I think. I think fondly of her and Dad everyday.

My wife and I were with her the night before she passed on. She said " No mother could have had a better son " I often wonder where she got that from. Shame I don`t always see it that way.

b0rker

HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »

How can people be so pessimistic all the time?

Because it fits in with their VI.

99% of the uber negative posters on this forum want house values to drop.

I would bet my house on the fact that as soon as any one of them bought a house then their tunes would quickly change.

I am not a raging bull. I expect house prices to drop a bit over the next few months. I am realistic like most of the bulls on this forum. It is the likes of brit, macaque and carolt that are the seriously fanatical HPC cheerleaders.

Negative Equity is theft.

the_ash_and_the_oak

i think everyone is realistic its usually the other people that aren't imo

Cleaver

Pobby wrote: »

Sorry to hear that cleaver. I lost Mum just a little bit over 14 years ago. At least she was only 5 weeks short of 87 so as my late God Father would say " a good innings ". I admit I was left an inheritance which more than likely, saved me from going br. I had a business that was , in part, damaged by rent increases, a house that the mortgage had risen by a good deal, the 90`s. It`s something that sits in a very uncomfortable way with me.

Many years ago I spoke to a very dear friend about these guilt feelings. He said that it would what Mum and Dad would have wanted and I guess that is true. It has certainly changed the way I think. I think fondly of her and Dad everyday.

Money is a strange thing. In a weird way, both having it or not having it could probably cause upset, as you've shown there Pobby.

If my Mum had passed away and left my Dad hearbroken and economically broken, then the situation would have been even worse for him. But whilst it is great that he never needs to worry about money it must be strange for him to look at a figure on a statement and just think that you haven't got your partner in life to spend it with, so what's the point in having it?

I'm sure your Mum would be completely made up knowing that she saved you from going bankrupt Pobby, I wouldn't feel guilty about it in the slightest. I'm sure some people go out and buy a speedboad with inheritence or fritter it away on holidays. Which is fine of course, but I reckon most parents would want to see their kids financially secure.

Pobby

Thanks for that mate. This is not boastful but it was a spring board to get out of the mire and through the Grace of God and hard work it gave me a second chance and I am so fortunate that I havn`t blown it. So I guess someday some of that will be handed down.

I have a very close friend who has just inherited and he felt guilt. On the other hand I have seen others just waiting for the legacy.

I guess here is the irony. I had great career promises but was cut short with illness in my late teens. I went from a very menial job and progressed, not always easy but I had breaks and worked very hard. By the age of about 33 I had enough saved to pay off the mortgage on a pretty cottage I bought. I remember ringing Dad and asking if I should pay it off.

Some times Dad would say that he needed to talk over the finances with me for the future. I would poo poo it saying spend it, I am doing fine. Don`t want your money. It`s ironic how things turn out. Not very proud of it.