Power of Attorney - URGENT HELP PLEASE

nikkikl

Sorry to drag this up again! Tammy has requested an update so here it is....
I telephoned the Director of Social Services who didn't call me back. So I wrote to him and got a letter back saying that the Social Worker had done everything within her power (which is zero it seems) and there was nothing more that they could do. However if I wanted to take action privately that was up to me. Bottom line is, I am skint so I can't do a thing other than speak to a Solicitor for half an hour.

Apparently (and this came via hearsay so not sure if it is true) my dad has had to pay tax on some of the money he stole. And, get this one - he CLAIMED that he very kindly paid the Inheritance Tax on the £8000 that Grandad gave me and my sister when he was alive!!!! Ain't that good of him!!! Funny, I was never actually informed of anything about paying tax from the Inland Rev.

So, the bottom line is that nothing good has happened. He (I assume) is still rolling in money, still has very expensive cars, he has paid for the driveway to be resurfaced at that woman's house which must have cost a small fortune. My sister has emigrated now so I am on my own, not that she was ever any help with the situation.

The last time I saw him was at the scattering of my grandads ashes where I was perfectly polite to him and he acted like nothing had happened, played with the kids etc but I haven't heard from him since. In all honesty, along with the fact that he makes no effort to contact his grandchildren, I have no time for the man and I think I will have to accept defeat on the Nan situation. He is not my dad anymore.

Bossyboots

Thanks for the update Nikki. Sorry things have not moved on.

I haven't re-read the whole thread but we are a few months down the line now. Who is actually paying for your Nan's residential care? With all the hoo ha about people transferring their houses to avoid care fees, I find it incredible that no-one wants to get their hands on your Nan's money. It may well be that in a while the penny will drop and an investigation will be started.

In the meantime, I think it is time for you to let it go. He is the one missing out on sharing time with you and his grandchildren and there will come a time in his life when he will regret this. Perhaps even when his lady friend has spent the money and is tired of him.

nikkikl

Hi Bossyboots

The residential care is being paid for by the council as dad left less than 5K in her bank account. She doesn't spend any money in there so he will have that away when she dies too.

I totally agree with you, I do have to move on and because the situation with my dad started a few weeks after my mum died 3 1/2 years ago, I don't miss him anymore. I do get angry when I think about the injustice of everything that has happened and what he has got away with but there we are, I can't change it now. I hope and pray that he will get what's coming to him and that the woman will dump him once the money runs out because, like me, he will be left with nobody around him and he might get a taste of what he has put me through. After 36 years I thought I knew him but I don't. He was a good dad and a fantastic grandad until the moment my mum died then he suddenly changed into this cold hearted money grabbing b*stard and everyone around him was scratching their heads trying to work out why. Money is why. The £££ signs flashed up in his eyes and he was more worried about money than family, and look where it has got him! Still let's hope that the old saying 'What goes around, comes around' will apply one day!

Thanks all

Nikki
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bokkie7975

(((((( HUGS))))))) for you , Nikki

Keep in mind all that he has now lost, you & your children. Money can never make up for that.

Does the council not have a fraud investigation team?

My mum had to go into a nursing home a few years ago and not having set up a POA in advance, we had hassles. Her social worker told us that her pension, etc, would be used to pay for her tioleteries, etc, as the council would pay for the nursing home, but we couldn't use any of her money to pay for top up fees to get her into a better home!
My mum was in no condition to ask for toileteries nor to authorise any withdrawls from the bank to pay for them , so in effect the money would have piled up and eventually it would have come to us.
I contacted the finance department of the council/ social work and asked if we could use mum's money to pay for fees, as we would rather have her benefit from her own money in any way she could, the chap I spoke to was very helpful and agreed that mum's social worker was wrong.
I had to contact my brothers who lived abroad to tell them of mum's deteriorating condition and all he wanted to know was - "What happened to mum's money?" Needless to say we haven't spoken since.

Good luck for the future, your nan is lucky she has had you fighting for her. You have done all that you can, and at least keep that in mind.

regards,
L
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tammy_3

what a b**********. Theres two things you can do in the long term and short term- Believe me she will leave him high and dry once the £ runs out and he cant meet her needs- He will come back and beg for forgivness and say he realises now but i think at that point you should kick him when he is down and tell him where to go- Your kids dont need him, if they'vedone without him for a few years they can continue.........in the short term why dont you try and sell your story- Try womens magazines first even if you get a measly £200 he can have the shame of his name and his gf plastered all over the mags...also try the more sleazy papers like the sun or news of the world, how he conned your grandad a dying man and left ur nan to rot. DOnt let it stop here make his life hell. Also write the inland rev a letter explaining that he has this money has he paid the tax? ALso explain its not his money anyway perhaps they may get the ball rolling. I hate people that rae like this.

THRIFTY_JO

These guys also have the power to look at all accounts in your dads name. They don't even have to ask him where they are.
I'm sure its something to do with the proceeds of crime legislation.
Have a word with your Dads local tax office. Give them some details aNd you can remain anonymous.Mostly the things that they can search for him on are his DOB and NI number which the IR always have, and so do most banks!!

Hope all goes well for you and the children. MY MIL is having the same thing with her Mum and money grabbing sister. The sister tried a POA (from the internet) and MIL only wanted to object that she hadn't read it but the magistrates threw it out for being rubbish. I can see the same situation as yours brewing with cheques of £18k disappearing and correlating with nice new shiny things!!
Bl**dy families!!!
Take Care
Jo :T