Under 18 kicked out by mum

Oldernotwiser

ZarZar1990 wrote: »

Could you keep her until she finds somewhere but perhaps take £10 a week from her EMA as board?

That's a bit much to ask!

ZarZar1990

I know, I didn't mean long term, I just meant for the next couple of weeks, until she gets sorted, not as a long term option... xxx

claireac

I won't be kicking her out if she has nowhere to go! I don't want any money off her at the moment. They ate out last night, and even bought sandwiches at the supermarket for college today. A tad OTT if you ask me! I would happily have made more dinner for them

Did get ds to iron dd's trousers though - that's unheard of :rotfl::j!!

We'll see where we are after the weekend. I think once the mother realises exactly how much her dd was doing she might have a re-think :rolleyes:.

Pee

If the mother is an alcoholic she may easily change her mind, but may also change it back again in the future. I would speak to Shelter and get some idea of the options available.

cobbingstones

She has the right to be accommodated under the children's act due to her being under 18.

Good luck

claireac

Well it looks like she's not going back to her mums!!

I don't really know what to advise them, so have just run through their options:
a) she goes into a hostel - there is only one in town, and it's horrible, full of druggies, constant trouble.
b) I write a letter to kick them both out - in which case they'll prob end up in b&b, but will get housed by the council.
c) they rent a flat/bedsit privately. I think the council will help with a deposit. They're both at college, although ds has a part time job in Tesco and earns £500ish a month. She's looking for a job. They'd get topped up with benefits and hb etc.

I don't know what to suggest! B&b would be tough in the short term, but maybe a better option in the long run???

Any opinions please? It appears they want to be "togevva"!!!

esio_trot

cobbingstones wrote: »

She has the right to be accommodated under the children's act due to her being under 18.

Good luck

I wouldn't count on it - it's 16 here. Are you sure you're correct? Of course, it may be different in England (I'd doubt it though)

OP - get her down to your local housing office. If nothing else, they'll be able to advise on possible options (don't let them think she can stay with you) and help her to make a homeless application if necessary. They'll also point her in the right direction with benefits etc. Temporary accommodation will usually unfortunately be a B&B but she'll be given a high priority for rehousing. Check out the housing section of your local authority website and see if they have any additional advice. For advice, you could also try contacting Shelter.

instaunt

claireac wrote: »

Thanks both of you!

We do have a Foyer! Will speak to her later and see what we can do.

Have had a text from ds, and she's gone to see her mentor at college and then to try to talk to her mum. I really feel for the poor girl!!

Probably better to actually stay away. The home environment can't be good for studying let alone continuing mental health. Time to make a break for it. I left at 18 and have now put 400+ miles between me and my parents - best thing I ever did and at 32 I don't regret the decision ... wish I'd got out sooner.

verysillyguy06

claireac wrote: »

Well it looks like she's not going back to her mums!!

I don't really know what to advise them, so have just run through their options:
a) she goes into a hostel - there is only one in town, and it's horrible, full of druggies, constant trouble.
b) I write a letter to kick them both out - in which case they'll prob end up in b&b, but will get housed by the council.
c) they rent a flat/bedsit privately. I think the council will help with a deposit. They're both at college, although ds has a part time job in Tesco and earns £500ish a month. She's looking for a job. They'd get topped up with benefits and hb etc.

I don't know what to suggest! B&b would be tough in the short term, but maybe a better option in the long run???

Any opinions please? It appears they want to be "togevva"!!!

That would take time and is likely to mean they are with you. But if you can be there for them, I know its a huge ammount to ask but they are extremely vulnerable and it will hit her that she was thrown out,...she will have a brave face now but later? She would be safest with you until they can get rented accomodation .....


Sorry , just my opinion and I dont want to put pressure on you..... :o

Squiggly_Diddly

esio_trot wrote: »

I wouldn't count on it - it's 16 here. Are you sure you're correct? Of course, it may be different in England (I'd doubt it though)

OP - get her down to your local housing office. If nothing else, they'll be able to advise on possible options (don't let them think she can stay with you) and help her to make a homeless application if necessary. They'll also point her in the right direction with benefits etc. Temporary accommodation will usually unfortunately be a B&B but she'll be given a high priority for rehousing. Check out the housing section of your local authority website and see if they have any additional advice. For advice, you could also try contacting Shelter.

In May 2009 there was a court ruling ("the Southwark judgement") which means a young person aged 16 or 17 is entitled to an assessment not just of their housing needs, but all other needs - and the duty to carry out this assessment falls upon Children's Services. This link takes you to a document which might explain it more clearly.
http://www.leavingcare.org/data/tmp/5618-11519.pdf

Suggest that you make contact tomorrow & stress the urgency - initial assessments (which I think is what this should be under) are normally meant to be carried out within 7 working days.